January 15, 2014 - 5:32am — KTS
Soo..
Hi! Ive been around for a year or so now and just never logged onhere and just closlely watched from far away the wonderful artists hehe.
ANYWAYS, onto the question! - So for those of you who have changed their name either last or first names in real lives, what was your reasoning behind it? I have played with this option in my head for a while now and contemplated lol but it never stuck to me what to tell other people for a reason???
Because like.. I feel as though they would give me weird looks. When I tell my friends I want to change my name to something else they look at me odd and ask why you would want to change youre name from what was given to you at birth!? Soooo...ya. Just wondering for some opinions! I know it is a personals choice but I mean I never liked my name and most people in America cant say my birth name anyway (First OR Last!), but Im also superstitious that I would lose whatever luck I had with the name lol because I almost died as a baby and one of my family SIBLINGS named me actually.. yea Idk. Im at college now so this is so silly to be asking parents what they think about my choice. Or friends because they are very critical with me! Oh and Im also sorry that this is not community related I hope a this is not a problem oops. Just really need some advice from people that have done this before lol. And I like think it will make me a better person too a fresh start for me.
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The community is pretty much always happy to help :3
I haven't changed my name, but I considered it for a while. I think you have to put a lot of thought into what you choose to change it to - kinda like a tattoo. With tattoos, some people suggest putting the image you want somewhere that you'll see it every day for at least a year, and if you still like it after all that then you'll probably be okay with it permanently. I remember a book I read many years ago where the main character wanted to change her name, and she carried the name in her pocket and used it to introduce herself/etc before she actually changed her name until she was really sure it was the name she wanted.
Anywho, for that first question, the 'reason' - My name just isn't up there on my 'nice names' list, even though I grew to be content with it. At some point I realized I liked other names a lot, and even though I wouldn't choose my name to give to my own (or suggest for someone else's) child, I'm okay with it for me. I can't give a better answer than that I guess since I never actually changed it : P
But if people ask why you'd want to change the name you were given at birth, I think a reasonable answer would be something along the lines of "I'm a very different person now than I was on the day I was born, and I feel my new name reflects that in a positive way; it makes me happy." (so long as it's the truth!)
I'm not real big on destiny being tied to a name, although there is some validity to the correlation between names and certain issues in life (names that make you prone to teasing, etc), so I wouldn't really fret about losing 'luck' from a name - you're still lucky you!
Do some research and see if you can find any groups online where people have discussed the topic; they might have some better insights and suggestions.
And welcome to TEFc!