Even if you're awkward and stutter and feel as if your IQ has dropped by a good 60% when trying to talk to him, still, reach out. Eventually Fluffy will meet you halfway in your efforts, unless he is even more shy than you are.


Try to make eye contact, engage into conversations even if you're uneasy. Uneasiness is better than nothing at all.

No need to focus onto not appearing stressed or embarassed. It is not an illness. Xd

^Some of my friends who are terribly shy sometimes get all assertive and almost offensive when they try to force themselves too hard, kind of look like they are fighting against constipation...to be honest.

If you have a friend among your group that is more extraverted, maybe ask them to help you a bit with talking to Fluffy.

It will take some efforts anyway, nothing too hurtful though, so NOOOOO WORRIES.

Oh my gosh thanks a million guys! This helps tons! And your right, I kind of am purposefully withdrawing from the world like that. I'll ask my one friend that's good at that stuff. She's never nervous. makes me feel better now!

Edit: bouncy you ninja! It was helpful thanks!

Once upon a time... A veryyyyyy long time ago, I was a bit shy too, and would act awfully cold (goodness, me used to be one arrogant arse) to someone I had feelings for.

Aka, fear of rejection, basically, you clam up.

Maybe in a corner of your mind you hope this person will notice you're worth his efforts to try and reach out to you. I'm sure you are.

But remember he'll never know what is going on within yourself. Unless he is a mind reader, give him the cold shoulder and he'll very simply, and fairly, interpret it as you not caring.

Maybe project yourself in situation, try to imagine how you could approach him.

Doing that will confront you to your own inner doubts, that once again exist only inside yourself. Spend your stress over this, when you'll actually talk to him, you'll realize how much you are the one that puts walls between yourself and him, and certainly, it will seem far less difficult than you thought when vizualising yourself doing it.

The more you expose yourself this way, the easier it will be too, because you'll learn to deal with your own nerves better.

Heh thanks so much Nayu! He was in my English group today, cuz he sits in a an island group cuz he talks too much, and I only talked a little bit about the assignment, but to my friends, and sorta to him. I just gotta work up enough courage to say hi, and then I probably will get used to talking to him, and maybe I'll find out if he even knows my name...maybe he knew before I cut ten inches if my hair off heh >.<"