Well, I am just here expressing my opinion on bullying, and how it
scars people.
At my school, it is International Bullying Week, as well as in many other schools.
No I am not in elementary, I am a teenager, just wanted to state that.
We got a presentation on bullying, and how so many people have been hurt so badly and even tried
suicide. A mother there came to talk about her son, who is now dead. He was shoved into lockers, punched, kicked, mocked at, and even given a
blood clot from an attack to his groin...
Bullying is
not right, it is completley unacceptable. It even happens on websites like these, as I have seen rants that lead to links on what happened. It
has happened here, and perhaps it might happen again. I have been bullied, but not to those serious extents. It hurts...
real bad. I guess I could share one of the short stories of mine here...
I am very petite in my size, thin body structure. Not tall, average height I would say. I hate the word skinny, it just sounds repulsive and gross to me. I get called that a lot, which I do not necessarily like. I
know I am small, but I eat
alot, it is unbelievable. I have very high metabolism like my father, so I never get fat. I guess it is lucky, what some have said, but sometimes I wish I wasn't thin...
One time some people said I was
anorexic, which is
NOT what I am. They continued to call me that, and this one girl came up and told me I was that, someone who was supposed to be my 'friend.' It hurt so much, I got insanely frustrated and sad. I told her I was not that and I left, leaving her and what seems to be the world behind. I couldn't even laugh or feel joy, I was overwhelmed by pure sadness. My self-confidence lowered as a result of that, I felt like an
alien...
She ended up saying a truthful sorry to me, but I can never look at her the same way as before.
I am naturally built small, fat doesn't reach me to quickly. But I am
not not not not anorexic. Not even close.
But I walk proud of who I am, and so I gain respect. And with those who hurt me, I will
not allow it. I stand my ground, no matter how small I am. But it is hard, I am not super outgoing, somewhat timid- yet loud when I laugh, enjoying my life's blessings.
There is more to this story, this just being a small portion of it. I have other stories, but this page shouldn't be filled with regret and tears. Teenagers get faced by several problems, judged so much by their physical appearance. Or perhaps because they are intelligent or not as good at a subject at others.
We are all different, why can't we accept ourselves and others for whom we are. We form an image that is fake of ourselves, to be 'cool' and popular. But we are all popular, when we are with our friends. We are all
beautiful in the ways we are built. Some are bigger than others, others smaller. Some are athletic, others are artistic. So many different factors that make us up.
Here I ask, only if
you want to, share a story or say you have been bullied in your life, or if currently you are. No matter what age you are, feel free to share. Show those who are bullied that they are
not alone, that they are loved. Stand up for yourself, get help. Do not hide,
do not be afraid. Do not commit suicide. We have all been through it...
Treat others just as you would want them to treat you.
Now let's add some happy to this...
Deer cupcakes for everyone!
I have... a HUGE story about
But I also have dinner - I'll be back to tell it in just a few.
Okay, thank you so much for
Being someone who has been
Thank you, and your welcome
There are so many others out there, that are neglected, and I just wish I could do more...
I was bullied a LOT in 4-6th
Unfortunatly my answer to it was always to show how they had F*cked with the wrong person, and come back with far more than anything they had ever done to me.
I wouldn't suggest it, at all, but considering that it's in my nature to hurt someone when they hurt me, whether it be in a mental or physical way.
Eventually, yeah, they stopped, I guess it worked for me because I was never interested in being friends with anyone anyway, so my main goal throughout my life has been to push people irl as far away from me as possible.
I wouldn't suggest it if you actually want friends though.
tl;dr
irl bullying sucks. Becoming a bigger bully isn't usually the right answer.
I see, thank you for sharing.
yup, bullying's a bitch, i
Ever since...well...actually I don't know when it started, I've been called 'gay'. For a long while it bothered me, though it never really made me cry...but I suppose it's like immersion therapy, after a while it just stops working.
Oh well, since the middle of third year, I've not cared at all, in fact, I'm proud to stand up and say that yeah, they're right, I'm gay.
Now...now I realise something, I think that it made me stronger. It gave me the conviction to be proud of myself, it made me want to win.
Though, for other people, their endings aren't as happy, I can only wish the best upon them.
Mick Kreiger: You Know You Love Me XOXO
*noms deer cupcake* OMG CUTE.
Anyway... I've put up with that nonsense too. Sometimes it just didn't make any sense. One girl, who was not only much older than me, but I'd done absolutely nothing to- frequently threatened physical violence on me. Never to my face, I just heard it through the grape-vine. One day one of my "friends" who knew this girl tricked me and put me in a situation where I was trapped with her. Once I finally saw my chance to get away I ran for it- and for a fat kid I was bookin' xD But one of many examples... of course I got mocked for being fat, having a weird voice, blah blah. I still despise my voice.
I always valued being around my friends and their opinions more than those who decided to judge me without knowing anything about me. It still pisses you off and puts you down, but there are always ways you can bring yourself back up. Once you hit college you're in a (generally) more mature crowd anyway... if people don't like you they just leave you alone as opposed to picking on you, and being around so many people you've never met, there are opportunities galore to meet more friends, even if you barely talk like me xD Things do improve.
Shadowsoflight: Yes, bullying
I see no problem in people who are bisexual or those who like the same sex. They are just like us, and to be honest I have friends like that or know good people who are called 'gay.' They are awsome, haha<3
We are all different in our own ways, and being proud of who you are somewhat determines how you will be treated in life. I does incourage people to stand up, or perhaps to build more self-esteem. Of course all stories are different.
Thank you
bigcrow: Yum :3
That sounds horrible :/ Media has influenced us to believe that looks are everything. And I bet you don't have a weird voice, it's just that perhaps that thought or belief makes you believe you have a weird voice. The mind can do many things I believe...
I do not like the word fat either. We are all defferent forms and sizes, and we have just been led to believe that we need a perfect body...which is impossible. Everyone is beautiful, it's just some people are so cruel...
I believe as we grow, we mature and gain more intelligence. As you mentioned, thank you
Thanks for sharing!
Alright I'm back. I made
I made the mistake of being gullible - and a pushover - and nice - on my first day of High School. You know how sometimes people will abandon appliances on the side of the road? Well, someone I was talking to claimed they found a little of kittens in an abandoned microwave, and asked me to help out. So I made flyers and posted them.
Turns out there was no litter of kittens. When I went to school the very next day, there had already been a rumor spread about me that I had captured those kittens myself, put them in a microwave, and turned it on.
People meowed at me behind my back. Random people, as I was walking down the halls. The entire school was in on it. I got hit, punched, shoved into lockers, kicked, tripped. And of course the ever-famous taunting. For me, it was 'Cat-Killer' or 'Cat-Girl' as well as the nasty treatment.
Not even the teachers would do anything about it. I tried to ignore it, and it didn't work. People just kept getting worse and worse. Before I graduated, some of the kids got a notion into their head.
They caught me headed to class through the courtyard, and stopped me. About 12 - 15 students circled around, and wouldn't let me leave. One of the boys opened a can of cat-food, and started making 'here, puss-puss' noises, and rattling the cat-food can.
No one would let me by - even though I was trying to be civil, and handle it like an adult.
However, when they started making it clear they would NOT let me be until I ate it... I snapped.
I don't remember what happened. Not clearly, anyway. I know only what I heard from outside sources, and not all of those were trustworthy.
After that, I was simply viewed and treated as though I were crazy. I got so tired of all the abuse that I just gave up, and acted whatever way I wanted, without method, decorum, or even apparent sanity. I had given up on caring completely.
Adding insult to injury, my favorite coat was stolen, and left for me to find, soaked in deer urine and deer blood. Also, my 600 page fantasy story I had bound to give to my parents as a graduation gift, was stolen as well, and later found to be flushed down the toilet.
ANYONE who tells you bullying is 'no big deal' should tell that to the three friends I had who watched me start out cheerful and outgoing, and wind up a wild, out-of-control rage-filled animal by the end of four years of High School.
It should be mentioned, however - that I NEVER FOUGHT BACK.
Perhaps that was my mistake.
I used to get bullied alot in
I got beat up by boys and two girls once took a bracelet my grandmother gave me. it was from china and very breakable.. the one girl took it and tossed it in the air and it hit the ground and broke it. The unfortunate thing was is that i begged for help from my teachers. and what she said was "bullying is a natural thing and it builds character" I had to go to the school psychyatrist because i once said " i wish i was dead" cause not only we're things completely horrible at school my father was getting drunk every night and yelling at me. he'd send me to school in tears in the morning because he'd yell at me about something. and then I'd get hit and called " Walrus" people would moo at me.
I admit I was a pudgey child. but boys we're cruel Bl
highschool got kinda worse. my mom said " oh they'll grow up" yeah they grew up to using bigger words. pfft.
I don't know if things are better this day in age. I can only hope so, I hope teachers see ...more then they used to. honestly i think half of the suicides we see in school is because teachers don't pay enough attention to whats going on in class. Cry's for help go unheard. hell if they don't have proof they apparently can't do anything.
My suggestion is if there is bullying going on. Try to find an alternative school..The teachers pay more attention to their students more then public schools. do.
Though i've found one thing out that is true. Bullies are usually people with their own insecurities to deal with. most likely they have things happening going on at home. and if they install some sort of fear in a person it gives them to power they don't have in their own lives.
But it doesn't make it right.
you know half the kids that bullied me during school I've seen them now a days.
A few of them dropped out. have kids and are barely making it.
some of them got their lives straightened out. but its like... the theory of Karma kind of applies.
What goes around comes around. you make some one else's lives miserable then you're will be in the future as well.
Mhmm, I was bullied in
My mom works at the elementary school I went to, and so as we were going to the car, an older kid (I think he was an 8th grader) whispered to me, "Your mom's a heifer." Mom saw him say something to me, and when she asked what he said, I lied and said that he was talking about a cartoon show (Rocko's Modern Life, if you wanted to know why I said that, because one of the characters is named Heffer).
I never told Mom that the guy said something about her weight. My mom has been overweight since giving birth to three children, and I think she just hasn't been able to recover because of it. She's tried every weight loss plan imaginable and nothing worked.
Sigh...it's in the past, and I'll probably never say anything to Mom about it, but people are total jerks sometimes.
Also those deer cupcakes are awesome! I wish I could make those for real XD
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I see a lot of people saying
It doesn't build character. It builds a nice solid base for future self-hatred. Its not "normal" its mini-sociopaths honing their skills. It shouldn't be a part of school. What is wrong with adults?
I was bullied for most of my
You see, I was in a bad situation at home already (which I won't go into) and was fairly used to keeping my mouth shut and letting others just swipe over me. From 5th grade to 11th, this same group of girls would harass me on a daily basis. They called me ugly, they called me stupid, they spread rumors(which they still do, because I don't go to the same school and everyone's braver behind the computer screen), and even hit my dog once while I was walking him in my neighborhood. I never told my parents or teachers because I was threatened that if I 'ratted them out' the consequences would be bad. In the latter years of this they used to get their boyfriends to push me against walls and threaten to do horrible things to me.
One day I had enough.
The group walked up to me to threaten me to ''not look at their boyfriend that way'' and I snapped. I stood up and hit the 'leader' girl as hard as I could. And again. And again. And again. The other girls ran off squealing and everyone else crowded us like a circus display. I broke her nose, gave her a black eye, and ripped that stupid little pink $200 polo she was wearing. Of course I was suspended for a week, but from then on I'm known as someone not to be messed with.
I'm not promoting violence or anything, but please stand up for yourself. You know, deflect these people before it gets this far. Unlike most bullied children, I was alot more confident otherwise but still couldn't find the strength to stand up to these people. You have to get past the psychological warfare and tell an adult. Get help.
I'm real petite too Kono. If that makes the fight scene look any funnier in your head! d:
Revtheyr: That is
It seems to have been set-up, which is the lowest of the low. Teachers never do anything, I've witnissed it myself. If I were in your place I would feel insanely angry. I think I would have hurt somebody, but as some say two fires don't make a right. But it is soo hard...
Bullying is a big deal, we all must understand that that is a solid fact. For some ignoring it works, butfor me it seems as if you are just storing in more hate and sadness. This world is becoming so cruel it is sad. I hope you were able to overcome it, that story filled me with sorrow, and wishes that you have a better life (:
Leveled: Figures, rich people tend to be stuck-up :/ My family is wealthy, but that does not make me better than others. And I know that. I've heard stories like yours, I wish you the best in life. You, nobody deserves to be treated like that. Nobody. Adults just do not understand...and no it does not build character. It bulids anger and sadness. It forces you to stand up and go insane or be hurt and stay hidden in pain. It is horrible. I agree, on your bully theory. Thank you for sharing, I hope it all goes well for you...<3
quadraptor: Disgrace...:/ I have glasses, I'm not the tallest either, but I have a friend who is super short- but it is adorable. She is so brave and humourous, and does not care what others think
That joke...I'm very close to my family. I would have felt so regretful and guilty if I were you. But I have secrets myself, we all do. The past is the past, we remeber it, or sometimes we do not. Bullying is becoming a hassle, ugh.
Haha I know right! Yum
bigcrow: Same here, but I know my mom was kidding with that. Bot when they are mean to the heart. I agree with you. Adults do not understand, teachers need to help out more. But instead they do not do a thing, ugh :/ It frustrates me greatly, this world needs to wake-up! Bullying is evil and wrong in all of it's ways, thank you for your great opinion
Tally: I have great compassion for animals and own a dog myself, so hearing that both you and your dog got hurt was a shock. People stoop low, real low sometimes. That is just disgraceful, a horror. I would have done the same as you Tally, I would think that ----- deserved it. It does show the sign don't mess with me, which may or may not keep bullies away. It all depends on the story I guess. Yes, stand up people or if you feel you cannot then get help. But...get help from someone you know will make a difference. Thank you Tally<3 Hope life is better!
And yes it proves to people that us petite ladies should not be judged by our size/appearance
I apparently had already told
She told me as well that there was a recent bullying of one of her favorite students - he spent the night at a friends house, and the older brother of the friend and a few other older boys made him take his clothes off. They wrote "fat" all over his body with a sharpie marker.
So when he has to change for P.E., everyone saw it written all over him. I think she said he hasn't been to class for the week because of it.
And in her words, "I wish they'd hang them by their nuts, or make them strip and someone write 'child molester' or 'pedophile' all over their bodies so when they change for P.E. everyone will see it."
She was really upset about it because the boy is really nice, and it's wrong to criticize people on their weight, height, physical features, ect.
It's kinda interesting. You
Recently, on of my best friends got cyberbullied by our supposed 'friend'. She sent her texts saying that they were never friends and that she was a horrible person. I will not say what other rude things she said.
The bully also sent a text to another of my best friend's about me being a mean little *****. To be honest, I had no idea she hadn't liked me before.
We all treated her as we treated anyone else, but for her to like us we needed to give her extra attention. We told her we all knew about the texts and what she had said, and if she stopped texting us and stopped hanging around with us, we wouldn't tell. We felt sorry for her, she cried a lot when we told her. But otherwise she would keep doing it.
And guess what? She got the reputation of a 'follower' of others in our year and came back to us. Just appeared one day. She ignored me and the friend who had been bullied. We then told a teacher.
I told the teacher alone, afraid that my friends would tell me not to. But I didn't want them to have to put up with it. It was kinda scary, but when I told all my friends that I had told, afraid that they would be annoyed, they hugged me and said it was the right thing.
Anyway, thanks for putting this up and making others more aware. At our school we are having an 'anti-bullying week' where we see how we can prevent bullying.
[e] When I was in the first year of Junior school, I got bullied by a few boys 3 years older than me. They chased me round the playground calling me names, hitting me on the head and pushing me over. I remember trying to hide with other girls in my year, who didn't even know who I was because I would hide in the toilets at break time nearly all the time.
I told my form tutor. Guess what she said?
She thought I was joking and told me not to make up such things.
I just want to give all of
I'm so sorry for all of you, and I really, really feel with you. Fortunately, I haven't ever really been 'bullied'. Ignored sometimes, by people I usually call friends, and they did get harsh on me at times. It's not fun. I can understand you all. I hope your situations are better now at school, (because you're all saying you have been bullied?) and that you can be happy at school now, too. ♥
And Konoha, you're awesome.
Can't say I was ever bullied,
I guess some may have considered me a bully, I was very blunt, didn't think about what I was going to say, I'd just say it, and I guess I would say a lot of hurtful things. I think it was more my sense of humor though and they were only being sensitive, but then again who knows, been too long now. I also had a pretty threatening 'go to hell' look, I was told that by numerous different people from different locations... not that I ever intended to give such hateful looks. I was doing all of this subconsciously I imagine, maybe acting out without realizing it because of my childhood with my parents.
I've since gotten much older, and think I have improved. I much more docile and easy going now. I think I smile a lot more. I'm not very trusting, I'm hard to get to know IRL(so people tell me), but I'm working on that too.
So maybe this is from a different perspective of 'bullying'. I have to say though, I wouldn't have done any of these things some of you have mentioned, how awful. =/
I was never bullied. But I
But I definitely stand up for myself. You should see how violent I can get if I'm in a rage.
I've never really been
There was always an 'inside' society... 'totem pole' I call it, in school among the classmates. Basically, if you weren't a cheerleader, soccer junky or fashion queen-- you were nobody. And actually, if you were a new kid, you were instantly popular. Why? New kids are like aliens to us small-town dwellers. You are someone new we haven't seen before-- not like the rest of our class whom we've grown up with since we were concieved! My earlier school years-- I'd say Pre-K through fifth grade, was much better than middle and high school. I was bumped down from my totem pole seat, for one reason or another (perhaps it was because I really didn't give a sh*t about my status, and did nothing to appease the classroom kings and queens.) and was bumped down to bottom-feeder.
Seeing that I was virtually a no one (and believe me I'm not telling you this for my ego), I began to stand up for kids who were being bullied (worse than I)... I took advantage of my lack of status. What did I have to lose? Though I am convinced that my status among my class members was cast aside when the bullying actually started (around 3rd grade), because far too many of my foes (the monarchy members oddly enough) knew I'd have too much of an influence to actually stop the bullying. But I did it nonetheless.
Time after time after time I was disappointed in the results I was given. My blind courage, generosity and kindness was hardly ever returned with friendship. In fact it was quite the opposite. Those who were being bullied actually tried to 'get in good' with the monarchy! The very scum of the earth who had shoved them into the mud! I was disgusted, though not humiliated or discouraged. Though half the time I was angrier at those who scrambled back to their abusers like worms, instead of standing by my side!... I wouldn't have led them astray.
Long story somewhat shortened, two girls moved to our town from downstate in 6th grade, were treated horribly for the way they looked (and for how smart they were), I repeatedly stood up for them, they did the same for me, and a huge friendship was created...
tl;dr: If you are being bullied, and someone risks their ass to stand up for you, verbally or physically-- it would be best to unite with them. They are already loyal to you without even knowing you! Do not waste your time by cowering before the monarchy. Spit at their feet, and rise up with your newfound friend. :3
/shuts up
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Thank you all for commenting I will get to replying to everyone soon!
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