I am afraid to go into the forest with pictograms turned off because I am afraid I won't recognize someone and they will get mad at me for trying to interact.
I am afraid to interact with others in the forest, because I am fearful that they will reject my characters.
I am worried that this will make me sound like a whiny brat looking for attention.
I am nervous every time I interact with anyone in-game or out, because I am afraid to say something wrong.
I am fearful of being myself, because I am afraid that I am too much for others... or too little.
I cannot begin to describe how afraid I am when I say "I have no friends." Because I don't really know what a friend is, or who I am supposed to call a friend. I am afraid that I will call someone a friend who doesn't want to be my friend.
I am fearful of those who talk behind my back, even though I talk behind the backs of others. They have every right to be angry with me. I'm a hypocrite.
I am annoyed by those who can't look past past offenses. I can't understand how others can hold a grudge for a long time.
Sometimes I rant about others. In the end, when I am done, I feel no better than when I started. I usually wind up crying and realizing how much of a bitch I am.
I am flighty.
If I get nervous about something, I shut down.
I cry a lot more often than people would think.
To those who think I am a strong person: I'm grateful. I don't know how else to say it.
To those who hate me: You probably have your reasons. I accept that. I wish we could be better friends, though.
I'm so nervous to post this... because I feel like I am begging for attention. Honestly, I just want to bare myself so that everyone has a chance to see. I hope I help someone with this, so that I can smile and know that something has changed for someone else because I did something. THAT is what keeps me going: Making others happy.
I'm afraid of what other people will think of me now.
On a relevant and
Y'know what I think? that
that you're a toot. Keep being a toot. : >
/gives huge snugglehugs I
I like you. Don't fret. People won't reject your characters. Just don't worry about anything. It'll be fine.
Don't be afraid to be
We all fear this. You're not alone. I bet everyone on the community site has felt this way before or now.
I know I fear all the same exact things. I'm afraid to speak up or try and meet others because I fear I have a bad reputation to my name for whatever reason. I'm afraid that the characters and hard work I put into them will never be appreciated (hence why when I make a character, I delete it after a day or a few hours). I'm afraid of others because of my mental trauma of the past, and the fact I don't do well with drama or general hate towards me.
I'm just afraid to exist in this wonderful place.
You're amazing, I always admired you when Moss first arrived and was glad to see such a simple and pure creation. I'm glad you're here.
I can relate pretty much with
I think you're kind, above everything else. You're always willing to give a person a chance, or even a second one. That may sound like an ordinary thing everything does, but trust me, it's rare in our modern world. Even in this community.
I did a huge mistake a few months back when I returned from my hiatus, and I managed to anger quite a lot of people back then. Some of them still hold a grudge to this day and avoid me.
Second, I don't want you to condemn yourself for being who you are. You have your own unique way of looking at the world and the way you react to things is not wrong. It's a part of your personality, and if others can't accept that, it's their fault. Seriously, who was it that decided what is the right way to be yourself ? Sure, we often engage in fights and disagreements because our views are different, but a fight, even if it's a big one, is no reason to hate anyone. We have to understand our own feelings, but also how the other one sees it.
Third, crying is not a bad thing to do. It's good for your health, a good way to let out emotions. It would be more worrying if you could not cry at all.
I really like you, even if I disagree with some of your views. That's completely normal, I'm a different person. But I value everything you say, and I don't think you should feel guilty about posting this. I care about your feelings, and hopefully others do too. I hate to see it when a post like this gets ignored. It's better to talk things through and not let them pile up inside you. You're strong and kind, merciful. Those are valuable traits to have.
I really don't know if my words mean anything, but I just don't want you to put yourself down.
You're welcome to approach me and my characters any time in the Forest, I don't reject others.
<3
Hnnn. People are always a lot
What are you really afraid of? You're not afraid to be yourself, you are afraid that others will not like real you. Or I dont understand the written word and the meaning embedded there. Every time when a person is afraid to say wrong thing and be wrong with those who do not know, he is not afraid be who they are, they afraid that other will know who they are and will not accept this. But is it worth to be afraid of? Hn. You dont have a friends not because you bad or how you see yourself. It's your choice, first of all. And its because you afraid to be. Everyone can find the love of another, no matter how bad he is. ok? You bad at some things, so what? No one perfect. Perhaps this is why we need other people. We need someone to counterbalance our shortcomings with their positive qualities. Andwe want that our good side helped someone else be better. No? Do not be afraid to be yourself. Be afraid to lie to yourself about who you are, what's going on and what you want. Its ok to be not perfect. At least you can try be better always when you want.
Im not perfect too. But In spite of this there is an amazing person at this community, which I am grateful for the friendship and good attitude.
I believe that you need to tear yourself for the sake of those who are really important in your life. And while no such people - to keep yourself whole as possible. In the world there are many people who will think about you good or bad. And there are even more people who do not know that you or me exist. Tear yourself for them - fleshless. Save yourself for those who will know about your shortcomings and still appreciate you fully and know that you have a lot of positives. And then everything will be okay. There is nothing wrong in solitude, when in the world there are so many opportunities for you to find important people. The main thing is not afraid to be yourself.
If you want to cry - its ok. If you want to be flighty - be like this, if not - you can always try to stop. Only you decide who you are and who you want to be.
Its not mean I tell that stuff as so much wise lolman, but still ... ~ I hope you will be able choose something better for you then fear of yourself. You must love you first of all. No matter who else love you too. Just know. Every one have things inside him that are worth loving. And in you, too. Therefore, love yourself. People who love themselves become happy. And when your happiness will no longer depend on others, and will always be with you - people will be around you, you'll see.
Yes to everyone! You're all
Believe me, I know about crying. Even if you cry for no apparent reason, don't stop yourself unless it's necessary, which I doubt. I cry in frustration, which is fine when other people understand, which they usually don't. If you ever feel upset, just let it out. It's good. You'll feel better afterwards.
Being yourself is not good to suppress and hold back. If you want to do something it you think it'll confuse otherpeople, just do it! I am probably the strangest person my friends know, but thats just my character. Never worry about being yourself. The only time you should stop yourself is if you might hurt someone, but you're considerate and I doubt you would get into that situation.
You aren't begging for attention. You're asking for help, and we're here to give it. Don't feel nervous about posting things like this - no-one is going to judge you. And we're all your friends here. *hugs*
And just so you know, your characters are all luscious and lovely.
Uit - Thank you. Nova - A
Nova - A toot sounds like a very fun thing to be.
Chromai - /returnsnugglehugs Thank you. For all of those things.
Snail - Thank you. Maybe we can be afraid together and that'll give us some courage.
Mary13 - I have GAD too, so it's no wonder that we both understand each other a bit better. As far as my own feelings go, I tend to put them aside and focus on the feelings of others. A lot of times I like to think of it as my inner psychologist, always analyzing others and not myself. Maybe it's why I chose to go into that as my outer profession. After posting this, I know some people would be afraid to see me as their psychologist, but I have to accept that even psychologists see other psychologists to help with their problems. Thank you again.
Oqu - Thank you for your logic and reason.
Honestly, everyone, I am not even sure I posted this looking for help... or what I posted it for. I'm glad, though, that you all were so honest with me, and I am glad to have posted it.
Sharing our pain doesn't make
Quote:because I feel like I
Contrary to what everyone are taught to believe... Simply wanting attention and reassurance is not a bad thing.
It would be a waste of time seeking forgiveness from anyone who tries so hard to belittle and demonize you, by the way.
I'm sure you'll find that you have plenty of friends.
I, for one.
Lots of the matters you
Add me on skype sometime if you need someone to talk to.
Also seconding Jin.
Tera - I'm glad. Thank
Jin - Thank you. I have this innate feeling that my occasional needy behavior is a bad thing. It's good to know that something like that is okay sometimes.
Tuo - Thank you. I do miss talking with you.
I have a tendency to be
I'm prone to the fear of saying something stupid when talking to people and I feel like I did it countless times in the past, which probably made up my present fear, again. So I would sometimes end up not saying anything at all even though I wanted to.
I never intend to hurt people. No. This doesn't mean I am incapable of hurting them, though. And when it happens, I feel like I am the worst person in the world.
I'm sorry this comment might not be of any help. I have just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in this, and that I know how most of this feels. <3
I feel like this a lot,
I'm always scared to write anything in English cause I feel like I'm making mistakes all the time and others won't understand what I want to say.
Also I often feel that the way my characters interact in-forest doesn't match their personalities.
I assume everyone has felt
Jennie - It's good to know
Zuzanna - Your english is just fine to me.
Perhaps we should have a
I think we used to have a
In a community this gentle
Myself included, on most counts. For example, I feel so eager to make new acquaintances, to find new friends I can laugh and talk to that I am nearly constantly afraid of doing something wrong. Being friendly yet handling everything with gloves on for fear of tainting it is a difficult balance to maintain, and brings up all kinds of pressure.
...which leads to letting that pressure go. Don't be afraid of crying. Never, ever, ever. Bottling a monsoon is never a good idea, I've learnt that the hard way. Let it out, tear a few trees, and you'll see that rebuilding is easier afterwards. Frustrations will fester if they are not released, so please, don't do that to yourself.
...yourself, as in you, who you are, special and unique with all your quirks, faults, good sides and views. Everyone is different and not all will like or agree with you, but that is not a bad thing. The devil is in the details, but variety is where the angels lie. Explore them and be explored, clash and laugh about it, and you will come out of it richer, wiser. Maybe even more knowledgeable about what works and what doesn't. Perfect compatibility is a myth at best – revel in being different and be mindful of the differences of others. Every mistake and triumph offers something to be learned. (notsurehowcoherentthisbitwasbuthopeithelps)
As for your characters, they are always welcome to join Doves and I. Each and every one of them seems interesting and not at all the type I would refuse interaction with. Heck, I'd even try to seek some of them out if I could wrangle the map into obedience for once!
I know we haven't talked before, but if you ever need company I am available too. A chat, a random hug (free of charge and super effective!) or just knowing that somebody else is on, anything that helps. Opening up like this was a very brave thing to do, and I want you to always know that you are not without friends, past, present or future ones.
Thank you, Doves. That was
And for everyone: Feel free to come hang out if you see any of my pictograms online. I may not always be the most active company, but I assure you that you're welcome. Anyone is.
This is so kind Doves