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June 6, 2011 - 4:04pm — Alphafrost
I feel like everyone in my.. um, let's call it a generation - A years' time, and they all just.. post that they are leaving and do. I know it can be for all sorts of reasons - Sickness, In-game drama that's boring them, ect. But.. Have you noticed it? Shocked
June 6, 2011 - 5:48pm — Nayu
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I'm fairly new here, and even

I'm fairly new here, and even I have taken notice of it. It has been mentionned quite often how " the community isn't what it was anymore", which makes me wonder, what it was like before...
?
Sad
Tefc is a rich place, a bit overwhelming even, sometimes.
And what makes it rich, for the most part, is what the oldest members have managed to create here ( and inspired the new "generation" to follow in their steps.)
I find it sad to see them quietlly leave now.
—

Siggy by Butterbrot <3
June 6, 2011 - 6:29pm — Matthieu

I find it hard to believe

I find it hard to believe sometimes that I've been here for more than a year. Plodding around on various accounts.

TEF is definitely different, I've noticed.

I've been trying myself to jerk myself away from it all but I can't.
Someday though. Soon maybe. Most of the people from when I first joined are gone and I haven't really met anyone new since then, and nobody has taken an interest in me. So it's just becoming easier and easier to start cutting ties off to this place.

Like a balloon, with lots of strings. Always cutting more. Never adding new ones.

I'll probably just drift away myself once the last of my own ties are cut.
June 6, 2011 - 6:39pm — eyestrain
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I'm sad to hear that,

I'm sad to hear that, Matthieu...


I haven't noticed much change, but I don't know how it was before. I was a little shy and preoccupied then and kept to myself until recently.
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I don't strive to be the best, but instead I strive to do my best, and always give it my all every time.
-faunet
June 6, 2011 - 6:42pm — Matthieu

I can never truly decide if I

I can never truly decide if I actually want to leave, or if I just want to see who would notice, I'm very selfish like that.

Even if I did 'leave' I think I would still check in every so often though.

There are still a few people keeping me here yet, and I've made a couple of new friends very recently. So it could change.
June 6, 2011 - 7:30pm — Alphafrost
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I'm thinking about leaving -

I'm thinking about leaving - The older generation was... Amazing. I would know. So helpful. If you see a help blog nowadays.. Well. I remember my first post on here, so shy and confused. That was back in my WQ days. Ew. But I managed on my own. A person named 'Fiddlesticks' got me interested in TEF, and I will never forget that person, really. <3 But yeah. I was gone for over a year. Popped in about every three-four months, but.. /shrug


Now I'm not even in-game anymore. Or I can't connect, if I am.
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† Life is a Velvet Crowbar
Hitting you over the head
You’re bleeding
Boy you want more?
This is so like you I said
Put yourself on back to bed †
June 6, 2011 - 7:40pm — wingeddeer
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It's weird,everytime I join

It's weird,everytime I join an amazing site such as this.I notice lots of people leaving.Mabye I just have bad timing.
But I am greatly saddened by all the people leaving,.Especially with one whom I greatly enjoyed playing with here.And,though I never knew alot of these people,I wish I had.I've noticed that it's either life getting in the way,or drama.
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June 6, 2011 - 7:50pm — Starling
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I've been here more than 3

I've been here more than 3 years and I'm still here ;) Some active members have been here at least 5 years, too. Heehee. I guess tef just gets a little boring at times... but I stay here for the people. I have made many great friends here, and even if someday I do leave, I'm sure I'll come back to visit in years time haha. Tef is also somehow very addicting. I guess it can get in the way of a hectic life, at times.
June 6, 2011 - 7:53pm — Unplugged
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People coming and going has

People coming and going has always happened and will always happen. I remember when I joined there also were people leaving. One year after it felt like there was a huge wave of leaving-posts. It's been quiet for some time now. It's always around though. I see some being frustrated with the TEFc that have been frustrated for a longer time. But overall I see more people leaving because they're busy. The TEFc atmosphere is more relaxing now than it was some time ago, for me.

There also always were people saying "it used to be so different, the old times were so much better" and become bitter. I'm not the oldest member but I've noticed this in every "generation". The it-used-to-be always lies in the eye of the beholder. Of course, when someone first joins everything is different because everything is new. And of course a community doesn't stand still. Dynamics change.

So you live in your comfortable corner of the community until you notice that there's something outside of that. So it seems like a drastic change when in reality the community dynamics have always been in movement. Sometimes it takes a little effort to get in touch again.
June 6, 2011 - 7:59pm — Alphafrost
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Quote:There also always were

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There also always were people saying "it used to be so different, the old times were so much better" and become bitter.


There is no bitterness here. Please take /that/ somewhere you can prove it. It just bothers me when people assume that someone becomes bitter. Jeebus, not everyone is you. /annoyed endrant.
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† Life is a Velvet Crowbar
Hitting you over the head
You’re bleeding
Boy you want more?
This is so like you I said
Put yourself on back to bed †
June 6, 2011 - 8:07pm — Matthieu

Don't be rude alphafrost that

Don't be rude alphafrost that was completely uncalled for. Unplugged is the least bitter person I know. Behaving in such a way is something downright shocking to see.
They were pointing out that some people do become bitter, they didn't say you were, they didn't say they were.
So stop jumping the gun, act like an adult.
June 6, 2011 - 8:12pm — Nayu
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I'm backing up Matthieu

I'm backing up Matthieu completly on this one.
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Siggy by Butterbrot <3
June 6, 2011 - 8:12pm — Unplugged
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Can I replace "bitter" with

Can I replace "bitter" with "disappointed" then? I didn't see bitter an offending statement. It also wasn't directed at your post specifically, but I've seen other people become very disappointed in the community and that's what I was talking about. What I meant is that for these people the community is too fast and changes too quickly, so they get detached and it can be difficult to get back into it.
June 6, 2011 - 8:17pm — Terabetha

I notice this every year, and

I notice this every year, and I am positive I will continue to experience it until I too leave. As sad as it is to see people I've come to enjoy leave, or drift away without a word, I also take great joy in watching new members take their unsure first steps into both The Forest and The Community. Some of those new members stay, and grow to be new friends. Change is the only constant, The Community is just another example of this.
June 6, 2011 - 9:15pm — eyestrain
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this was posted in

this was posted in 2008

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This was when I realized that the TEF community changes and grows and that adaption is what keeps it stable. It's about unity and working together to solve differences, to overcome obstacles, to enjoy the game because thats what it's about FUN. But thats not only is that TEF, no, thats LIFE, growing, changing, maturing, and enjoying it along the way. I find it amazing that a little MMORPG game about deer is a reflection of life in the simple form. It's may not be my life and it shouldn't be a replacement for RL, but the metaphor of the endless forest is LIFE and is something that can be examined and learned from.



quoting myself

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I missed you when you weren't online, maybe too much. I didn't go and try to do the same for someone else. So I hurt. But I think I've got it now. It's not about the past. It's not about past successes or rejection, love or defeat, friendships or lonely, empty oceans. It's about what is going to happen right now and what could happen in the future. Those are the things I can change.
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I don't strive to be the best, but instead I strive to do my best, and always give it my all every time.
-faunet
June 6, 2011 - 9:22pm — august-jay

I've seen players arrive and

I've seen players arrive and I've seen players go. It's just a constant ebb and flow.

...-didn't mean to rhyme-


But I love every single person here. And I hope everyone stays for as long as they can. ♥