Am I doing anything.. wrong?

Lanithedeer's picture
Hey people.. I just came back from the forest in a sad mood. Here's why...

Well, deer are just being plain mean. And ignorant. I bow to people, and they just keep going about their own business. Here's a few cases:

I was near a mushroom patch when a doe and a stag (I think) were changing each other's antlers. I bowed to them, and they just didn't "notice" me.

Another time, I was near the pond when I saw another doe and stag changing each other's pelts. I bowed to them about twice. Only the stag responded.. after a while. The doe just kept changing pelts..

Another time, I was just sitting on my own and a stag and a doe (there's alot of stag/doe couples..) were just hanging out. The doe just STARED at me and nuzzled the stag. What the..?

This one REALLY grinded my gears: A doe that was wearing my old set! Exclaim ! Exclaim She kept on running around in front of me and I think she may have been showing off..

Even a good friend of mine ran off when I bowed to him.. but sometimes he doesn't recognise me when I change my set.

This isn't right. Either people are being mean or is it because Lani is a DOE wearing the zombie pelt? I've only seen a few does wearing that. Maybe its because they think Lani is too ugly to hang out with them?

After this nonsense Lani stared at her "ugly" reflection in the water then went to sleep under her favourite willow tree... then I left the forest. I might go back soon.

Sorry if I seem a bit mean.. I'm just sad.. sorry.

I know what you mean :/ It's

I know what you mean :/ It's making me rather afraid to even try to approach any deer... The forest has changed too much. ._.
Lanithedeer's picture

Heh.. I know. Poor Lani can't

Heh.. I know. Poor Lani can't handle being alone.. she is so social!
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.

I'm sorry that this made you

I'm sorry that this made you upset, and people should bow back when someone greets them...but I think you're overacting on the 'ugly zombie set'. I mean it's one of the more popular pelts, I doubt people are avoiding you because they think it makes your deer ugly.
I hope you feel better soon, and maybe people reading this will think more about greeting people more often in the future.
Lanithedeer's picture

Thanks Terabetha. I will try

Thanks Terabetha. I will try to feel better. I sometimes lose my temper when it comes to mean people.. but thats just me Eye

I do think the zombie pelt is cool.. I just thought people ignore me because it's different for a doe to wear the zombie pelt n.n

I do aswell hope people think about greeting deer aswell..
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.

You're right it isn't one of

You're right it isn't one of the typical doe pelts, but I like the fact that your doe wears it anyway ;D
Lanithedeer's picture

Yeah, it's not. I've only

Yeah, it's not. I've only seen like, hmm.. ONE doe wearing it, way back when Lani was a fawn..

You think? Thanks! I see does wearing non typical doe pelts too.. like... the orange one (heh.. sorry I need to get familiar with the pelt names) and the gazelle pelt. One doe that was being mean to me had the Angus pelt too.
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.

Were you the doe who turned

Were you the doe who turned my JayJay into a squirrel? If yes, then I'm really sorry for his reaction, it's just the way he is D= *kicks him* >_>

But I think that my other deer would be happy to meet Lani <3
Lanithedeer's picture

Haha, sorry but I don't

Haha, sorry but I don't recall turning anyone into a squirrel.. OOH I did turn a sleeping naked deer into something but I never saw what.. and he never got up.. It could of been you JayJay!

What did my deer look like? That would be proof if you knew Twisted
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.

I can't really remember, but

I can't really remember, but it had the same picto...but maybe it was just a glitch :/

Stupid double post - sorry

Stupid double post - sorry >_>
Lanithedeer's picture

Haha, its Ok, no harm

Haha, its Ok, no harm done.

Do you recall coming and sitting next to a doe with a skull mask and zombie pelt in a mushroom patch? A couple of fawns and a nameless were in there too I think..
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.

Nah, Jason was sitting under

Nah, Jason was sitting under a tree near the bridge.....ah, whatever XD

Just feel free to come by and say "hello" |D
Lanithedeer's picture

Haha, sitting under those

Haha, sitting under those willow trees near the pond is a good past time for my Lani.. I'm sure she'll come by and say hello ^^.

Anyways, I better be off to bed. I haven't been getting enough sleep Eye

Goodnight, the Endless Forest!
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.
Willet's picture

Well thats just rude! I've

Well thats just rude! I've had this stuff happen to me to! not the exact stuff but they ignore me and that sorta stuff! Although Whisper and Cheshire aren't super Social deer they like comapny! Huh Well im in the frest right now with Whisper if you would like to play...just an offer.
Alecsander's picture

Without attempting to sound

Without attempting to sound horribly rude:

No one owns a set.
Getting angry because a deer is wearing certain antlers/pelts/masks, especially after you stated it was your deer's OLD set, is ridiculous.

No one can know everyone in the forest.
No one will or wants to walk around on eggshells when they get a spell cast on them going "Oh crap I can't have fun or wear this because someone else's deer might do it!"

As long as the deer isn't going out of it's way to pretend to be you and cause trouble there should be no reason to be upset with it.

Chances are if you like how a deer looks, other player do also.

Case and point:
There are at least 4 does with devout/real deer/noh antlers.
There are atleast 3 deer with crying idol mask/zombie pelt/candles
There are a ridiculous number of deer with real deer antlers/skull mask/dotd pelt
There are 11 deer who wear dotd/no mask/beluga antlers.
Lanithedeer's picture

@Willet: Yeah.. people can be

@Willet: Yeah.. people can be rude in the forest. Thank goodness they can't talk, who knows what would happen then!!

@Alecsander: I'm not really saying I "own" a set, just saying that the deer that was wearing the same set was just being a little showy offy (I know they aren't words) and I'm not horribly upset that she was wearing the same set as I did before, I'm mainly making this post so people think twice about greeting deer when they bow to you..
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.

Oh no! I'm sorry they were

Oh no! I'm sorry they were mean to you! I've bowed to a couple of people, but I keep to my self (I joined only just today). Some people don't really act like I'm even there, but then, who cares what they think? Zombie pelt? Awesome! I've seen a couple deers wearing that! When my deer finally grows up, I've got to find that pelt! (If you really are that lonely, you can come hang out with my deer!)
Cyaneus's picture

I'd have to echo Alecsander's

I'd have to echo Alecsander's sentiments and say try not to be put off if a deer shares the same "set" as your deer. There are a limited number of combinations, and some pieces are more popular than others. Even though it may have seem like that doe was showing off to you, body language in the forest is so open to interpretation that she really could have meant anything! So don't worry, and I hope you don't have any more bad times in the forest. Smiling I'm pretty laggy due to my bad connection, but I try to greet every deer that greets me!

Lanithedeer's picture

@Widgtho: Lol, there's no

@Widgtho: Lol, there's no need to be sorry for me. Yeah, some people just can't be bothered to bow back to you (But it's totally different if they are lying down in a mushroom circle). Your right, but some people just don't treat other deer equal to them. And some can be selfish, but the TEF community is mainly very friendly. The Zombie pelt is hard to get, either someone sends it to you or you have to wait till Halloween. Someone else with more experience will tell you. And thanks, I might come and hang out with you n.n

Welcome to the forest, too!

@Cyaneus: You are right, she could of meant all these other things, and there are nice does in the forest (such as 21). Some are just plain mean, too. And I know there are limited choices of sets, I was just a bit grumpy at everyone who was being mean to me before I came across that deer, so maybe I was overreacting a little. Anyways, I'm still sorry x.x.
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.
ocean's picture

And also, with me, the only

And also, with me, the only time I really don't bow back [or even just acknowledge somebody] is when I'm clicked out of the TEF window-so sometimes, I don't even know deer are there. x3
That happens with some people-though generally they'll be just sitting deer and not like the ones you met. D:
Hopefully tomorrow's better. :3

Hrmm.. Sometimes I don't

Hrmm..
Sometimes I don't notice that other deer have approached me until they go right past or jump on top of me~ when you're zoomed in, you cant see -everything- going on.
Maybe some cases were just like that?

As far as "doing things wrong" , well i wouldn't say its particularly wrong per se, but...

>>>try not to assume the worst of others.
As far as IM aware, most of the inhabitants of the forest are really, honestly, not all that hostile and they're definitely not all out to get you. Do you think the deer in the forest are really that mean? ): I wouldn't have thought that a game like The Endless Forest would even attract the kind of person who just wants to have their little in-crowd hierarchy.

My Aeska (doe) wore the zombie pelt sometimes, I've never found it ugly. I dont find any pelt ugly, just different shades of colour and aesthetic icons. Everything about the endless forest is beautiful to me, I think thats how the creators designed it <3


To be honest, i've seen several posts of yours in which you seem to be a fairly sensitive, and caring person. To be sure, its not a bad thing, but then it makes me wary.. like "oh god, i just dont even want to run into that person in the forest incase I just do something that accidentally upsets them".
And I don't mean for that to upset you. You're quite welcome to approach any of my deer in the forest, and I'll respond happily, unless I don't see you, i'm away from the game, or i'm feeling miserable and antisocial and just want some time out. It's just something you should know that IM really conscious of, and sensitive around, myself.
Lanithedeer's picture

@Ocean: Yeah, I don't mind

@Ocean: Yeah, I don't mind deer that are laying down that don't respond. But deer that are playing with another deer and are completely active and don't respond, thats what seems mean to me Eye

@Aeskan: Your completely right. I always normally have my screen completely zoomed in (unless I'm trying to keep up with the other deer or taking pretty photos) and that could of been some of the cases. Most people are nice here, and they wouldn't want to do or say anything mean. The Zombie pelt is very nice, and many people find it popular and amazing. In fact, I just saw a few does wearing it. Just before when I was in the forest. (I've changed my pelt to the real deer one now, I really like it for some reason).

I'm sure you'll never do anything wrong in the forest. Your a really sweet caring person too, and everyone feels antisocial at some point, even my talk-a-lot Lani Eye .
I used to have an open mind... but my brains kept falling out.

Rawr.

Marriage is a relationship where one is the husband and the other is always right.