im listening, you know.

i feel for you, i really do. breaking up with my boyfriend was hard too. it was hard to deal with, especially now that i know i pretty much CANT get another boyfriend. i know its hard now, but... i dunno, i feel stupid for saying itll get better. why should i say that when it hasnt even happened to me?

breaking up is terrible. it always is. seriously. nobody's gonna replace him. but hey, you know, at least your still friends. its not like you totally hate each other or anything. thats probably the best way to end it. trust me, your feelings will die down, and it will become a friendship. it happened to me and my ex. im sure itll work for you. if he still listens, if he still cares, itll work. you still have someone.

i wish i could tell you youll feel better, but i know you probably wont. but seriously, youll find another person to light up your world. i know you will. youll probably have WAY better luck than me, thats for sure, heh. life wont hate you forever. it hates no one forever.

somehow i feel like im just sounding stupid. im just trying to lend a hand, but.. im not really good at that. i cant make heart-wrenching speeches like some others here. i cant give you the greatest advice ever. i can only offer a shoulder to cry on. thats pretty much all im good for, so i might as well do it. i feel your pain, ive felt it myself.

ill stop talking now <3
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ahh i see... thats different. my dad told me he did that a lot when he was a teen (because... we was a pimp?) and i can imagine that mustve sucked on the girls ends. if its not meant to be, its not meant to be. thats really all i have to say, and im sure you dont want to hear it >_< i have no advice, like i said before... i dont know what to say... sorry. *hug* you can talk to me whenever, my friends say i have a good ear... go ahead and email or something, i dont really care <3
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yeah i know how that is...ive only had one relationship and it was long-distance. my ex was probably the same distance away from me. we only lasted four months... your lucky to have lasted so long. and your still lucky you still want to be together. if you still love each other, theres no reason to think youll never get back together. he'll probably just get rid of the other girl because she isnt as important. its different when youre in person though, i know. i think the only reason me and my ex lasted so long is because we werent in person, but who knows...

im still talking nonsense. im probably not helping at all. but you can always chat with me. i can give you my address if you want (im on pretty much every day)
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You can add me on MSN; Raku and I are both on right now, we'd love to comfort you. <3 stickerbox@hotmail.com if you want to. D: Otherwise, same as Raku, I'm not as good at giving advice as I seem to make myself out to be. But there's a quote Lewis Caroll's character Alice says, "I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it." I say this because I think you already know the advice you should give yourself and that you should follow it because it's a lot easier to cheer up than you think. Granted I've never been in a relationship and have NO idea how you feel other than guessing and attempting to feel false pain to get in your shoes, but that doesn't mean I can't help. D: I'm here too, dear, and I care, so don't go hang yourself or anything drastic like that just because you think no one loves you, okay? xD For me? <3

it says im deannaklly@yahoo.com, but im not sure if thatll work >_>

anyway... i wouldnt really know what that feels like i guess. some people just know. im sure something will work out. whenever life throws in a knot, someone always manages to untangle it. thats about all i can say, really. bleh, alka-seltzer. never had it, never plan on it >>
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D:

It's really hard to be just friends with your ex, I know how it feels, sort off.

I've made peace with my first boyfriend, because our relationship ended in a fight. But we made up, but we aren't really friends. We never talk to each other and it's fine that way.

But my second boyfriend (I'm not as slutty as this sounds though), I am still friends with him because we were practically best friends before we got together. So it's hard to say goodbye to someone you've been friends with.... At first I did, I told him it would be better to go on with our lives without each other. Especially after some of the things he did, like burning a picture of me and putting it on YouTube...
I am a very forgiving person though, so I accepted his apology and we're friends now, just like we used to be in the old days. I'm like a 100% sure I won't fall for him again, it feels much better to be friends actually...

I don't know how your situation exactly is, but sometimes it's better to first take a break from each other and then return as friends. Because the first few weeks/months are the most painful, the feelings you still have make it hard to be 'just friends'. And you say he still loved you, so that all makes it confusing. Just be aware girl, that he's not fooling you. I don't want you to get into more trouble.

*hugs* I see that you have Her and Raku to talk to on MSN. But if you ever need an extra friend, I'm there <3

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Btw, Pega: Humor comes with people that understand how serious the situation really is ^^


To pray is to believe, to believe is to purify one's soul

Anzel, I'm so sorry. I've actually been in your shoes.

I'm currently in a relationship with a man who lives 5,000 miles away, in the Netherlands. we, like you, have only met once, for 2.5 weeks. The problem, as you probably know, is financial. Plane tickets aren't exactly cheap, so we don't have the option to just "drop by", whenever we feel like it.

Last year, right before Christmas, I told him that we should just be friends, because the long-distance part of the relationship was taking a toll on both of us. That hit him hard. He was furious with me, and he stayed piss-drunk (excuse the language) for about a week straight. We didn't talk for about three months. I thought I'd lost him forever.

Fortunately, I learned something. Those three months were enough for both of us to realize that we needed each other. We both realized how much we loved and missed each other. In March of this year, we got back together, and our relationship has blossomed. We are even closer to each other, more tightly bonded, more loving of each other. In fact, I'm moving in with him, next summer.

Point is, this isn't necessarily the end. It sounds like your ex still loves you. Have a talk with him, tell him how you feel. If he still loves you, your relationship will probably heal itself back together.

If he doesn't want to get back together with you, that's another story. If that's the case, I honestly think you need to cut your losses. Trust me, it's easier to move on, once the ex is out of the picture, altogether.

Sorry you're having such a hard time. :C But at least you know, we at TEF are always here for you. <3

cB In that case, you should continue to mope and think you'll never love again and wonder what's wrong with you! <3 Seriously though, do you not want us to help? That was really rude. ;___;

x.x It's more that, I know what I'm going to do, but...*sighs* I need an outlet, somewhere to rant and be heard, that's all. :/