There's possessive, and then there's love and trust. Two different things. I only speak out on this because you said 'here.'
However, yes, relationships like that in other situations can become abusive and will ultimately deteriorate between friends/couples. Not such a good thing. But, there is a difference between being possessive over, say, a best friend, and loving them in a way that warrants a need to protect them.
A bloke murdered his wife two weeks ago in my neighbourhood because he was possessive of her to the point where she tried to escape. He walked to the police station and turned himself in because he loved her that intensely.
That's very extreme, but still humans use the idea of possession to manipulate even if they're out-spoken about the idea of being seen as an object. For example, one person in a relationship will on purpose do something to spark possessiveness in their partner to feel loved and protected, however small.
I don't think possessiveness is inherently wrong... but it is how you decide to define it. I don't find the trait particularly attractive, but one of the reasons my last relationship failed was because I trust to the point of not being possessive at all, which can translate as not loving enough. If you want to project possessiveness in an alpha-male aggressive way for the sake of self-importance, then I wouldn't see that as a winning argument against a possessive nature that only surfaces in the need to protect or show loyalty to a loved one.
Some need it, some don't. Perhaps as characters go it might be a fun thing to play in the players eyes, but not so much for others as it systematically shuts the majority out.
Fin:
1: It wasn't directed at you, however you might be subject to it as much as anyone else might be.
2: You know you should be staying away from me, as am I to you, so.
/shameless immaturity
Dag:
I do like the points you raise, and I won't deny I am enlightened by it somewhat. Maybe I'm too vague, but I see the whole posession thing heavily overused, and often wrongly used too. What I'd like is to raise a bit of awareness so people might be able to understand the lines more, thus less likely to unintentionally make their deer appear to be a jerk lover.
.. unless that is their intention lol.
Excuse me? Where did I state I thought this was directed at me? I was only offering up my own opinion. I see possession and love as two different things that are very liable to be misunderstood. I'm free to speak my mind, Vee.
It's clear you're still having issues with me, and I'd suggest you contact me privately instead of making our differences so public.
No, actually. It was directed at anyone guilty, not specifically you guys. It also wasn't intended as a bite at anyone, just a word to raise awareness. Infact the thought to post it itself was triggered by a person completely unrelated to you guys.
By the way, I emailed you several weeks back not to respond to me, or post in my blogs. So gtfo, for both our sakes.
I did not get such an email. And I jumped to the conclusion it was about me and others because you attacked me in your blog before, not so long ago. I have reason to be unsure about what you write here.
But the point is you did attack me here, so I'm wary about what you write. Understand?
I'm moving on, too. But it would help if I didn't think you were jabbing at sore spots.
I never blocked you, either. But it's likely I didn't get the email because my other MSN account locked me out. I would talk to you now privately, but I think you've blocked me.
Of course, I'm not surprised you'd be paranoid. You've attacked me in several places publicly too.
Besides, since we're not on good terms, my words shouldn't be worth taking to heart. Better yet, you'd benefit a great deal heeding the warning I put at the top of the blog and not reading it. That way you won't have to think I wrote anything you might think is about you when it isn't.
Good, are you going to leave me alone now like I had asked you to? I think it'd do us both good.
Only in response to whatever stabs you've attempted at me and friends. While this particular rant might now have been about me and a select few others, I don't want to hear about anything aimed against the people you've had spats with. I'm tired of hearing about how Vee said this about me, or Vee said this about her, etc. I want to move on and have nothing to do with you, but like I said, it's hard when I hear about badmouthing from you, in your blog or to other people. I don't write things to bring you down, Vee. Please don't do it to me and others. You said you haven't attacked us in weeks, but who's to say you won't do it later? It's happened so many times before. Please don't.
I don't have any intention of spitting at you guys in my blogs.
As for the others, let them say what they want! They might think I'm wrong, and sometimes I am. Othertimes, they just can't handle the truth when I am right.
And if you don't want people telling you these things, just tell them you're not interested in hearing it. Simple! Problem solved!
People know now, I'm not a nice person anymore. I'm done with that bollocks after where it lead me. (:
I have nothing against you anymore other than your attitude and the way you've treated your past friends, the way you still treat them. I've tried to help you and be nice, but I'm done.
Thank you for not spitting at us anymore. Hope it stays that way.
I certainly won't do it to you.
My family always celebrates the same way: we watch Twilight Zone episodes all day and then eat a bunch of finger foods and stay up to watch the ball drop~. Sometimes we all sleep in the same room too, lol.
Starling:
I'd hate to be your neighbour. XD That's awesome though!
I'm not doing anything this year. Might have a bit to drink though and wait for 12am with dad, likely just talking about stuff or watching disaster movies. LOL the other day he put 2012 on, made me feel SO much better about next year. X'D
ocean:
For a moment I thought you guys were gonna watch Twilight, I was greatly relieved when I read Zone on the next line rofl. Sounds lovely though, don't get too fat on the finger foods!
:D Good to hear you had a good year, lol. I still have no aims/resolutions for 2012. You got see both Deadmau5 AND Funeral for a Friend? I am jelly. j__j
You have a good new year too <33 I can't remember this year being much special to me. So uh. Yaaay. XD But it was to you! And meeting with you was ofcourse always special. ♥
Ohgods.... I have Google Chrome, so when it scrolls down to the next page the Rainbow Dashes keep multiplying on my screen!!!
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Dropping in to express how awesome RD is. Weirdest thing though, she said my desktop needed to be 20% cooler- followed by Iron Pony. My wallpaper was the Avengers, minus Iron Man D= So now I've been guilt-ed into changing it.
Well, I guess I will jump at this chance to let something out as well. I have contacted Lex privately in the past because she was upset about something she had misunderstood, and I rather talk about things in private to come to a more calm solution.
I was the last one to email, and since the whole issue was about IC/OOC and taking things personally far too severely, whilst misunderstanding, I told her it may be best to leave a grumpy, unwelcoming character like Gehirn alone.
Lex never answered, but her answer was rather clear to me by her running her character in circles around mine continuously, running through the group repeatedly, spellspamming repeatedly. All with different characters, too. Oh and ofcourse untrue updates on character bios, but I can let that slip as I guess it is easy to assume Geh and Vir are together in their actions. But if you have no clue what actually happend, it is a bit rude to call a character a "bastard" for a crime he never committed. But again, I can let that slip.
What bothers me a lot is that Lex had an obvious problem with me/Vee in the beginning of our contact, we spoke about it and well, I suppose Lex stopped speaking about it. At first it was clearly stated, even in Lex's update, that she didn't want anything to do with me/Vee anymore. But now there is the constant stabbing in posts, updates, etc.
If you say you're going to leave people alone because you don't like them, DO SO. Don't go trolling around, I'm not retarded. It's not a huge forest no, but it's not that hard to just let people be. The obvious way in which she keeps coming back is, well sorry, just asking for it.
I've tried to be polite and I've kept private contact in the past. With the public stabbing Lex has been doing, it may just be the best to get this out as well. But still, I am sorry, I do not feel like everyone needs to get involved either. Though on the other hand, I realise there are now a lot of misconceptions about me/Gehirn going around, so perhaps it's not bad to get the story from our side out.
*peers around* Looking
Edit: I claim this page!
Thank you sight!
*grafitti's on the flag*
There's possessive, and then
However, yes, relationships like that in other situations can become abusive and will ultimately deteriorate between friends/couples. Not such a good thing. But, there is a difference between being possessive over, say, a best friend, and loving them in a way that warrants a need to protect them.
Interesting. A bloke
A bloke murdered his wife two weeks ago in my neighbourhood because he was possessive of her to the point where she tried to escape. He walked to the police station and turned himself in because he loved her that intensely.
That's very extreme, but still humans use the idea of possession to manipulate even if they're out-spoken about the idea of being seen as an object. For example, one person in a relationship will on purpose do something to spark possessiveness in their partner to feel loved and protected, however small.
I don't think possessiveness is inherently wrong... but it is how you decide to define it. I don't find the trait particularly attractive, but one of the reasons my last relationship failed was because I trust to the point of not being possessive at all, which can translate as not loving enough. If you want to project possessiveness in an alpha-male aggressive way for the sake of self-importance, then I wouldn't see that as a winning argument against a possessive nature that only surfaces in the need to protect or show loyalty to a loved one.
Some need it, some don't. Perhaps as characters go it might be a fun thing to play in the players eyes, but not so much for others as it systematically shuts the majority out.
TLDR: Tomato, Tomäto.
PRETTY LAYOUT and useless
and useless comment/input.
Fin: 1: It wasn't directed at
1: It wasn't directed at you, however you might be subject to it as much as anyone else might be.
2: You know you should be staying away from me, as am I to you, so.
/shameless immaturity
Dag:
I do like the points you raise, and I won't deny I am enlightened by it somewhat. Maybe I'm too vague, but I see the whole posession thing heavily overused, and often wrongly used too. What I'd like is to raise a bit of awareness so people might be able to understand the lines more, thus less likely to unintentionally make their deer appear to be a jerk lover.
.. unless that is their intention lol.
Kate:
THANK YOU!
I love caps. C:
Excuse me? Where did I state
It's clear you're still having issues with me, and I'd suggest you contact me privately instead of making our differences so public.
You can speak your mind, just
I will speak my mind wherever
No, actually. It was directed
By the way, I emailed you several weeks back not to respond to me, or post in my blogs. So gtfo, for both our sakes.
I did not get such an email.
I know for certain I sent it,
I havent attacked you guys for several weeks because I've been moving on.
But the point is you did
I'm moving on, too. But it would help if I didn't think you were jabbing at sore spots.
I never blocked you, either. But it's likely I didn't get the email because my other MSN account locked me out. I would talk to you now privately, but I think you've blocked me.
Of course, I'm not surprised
Besides, since we're not on good terms, my words shouldn't be worth taking to heart. Better yet, you'd benefit a great deal heeding the warning I put at the top of the blog and not reading it. That way you won't have to think I wrote anything you might think is about you when it isn't.
Good, are you going to leave me alone now like I had asked you to? I think it'd do us both good.
Only in response to whatever
I don't have any intention of
As for the others, let them say what they want! They might think I'm wrong, and sometimes I am. Othertimes, they just can't handle the truth when I am right.
And if you don't want people telling you these things, just tell them you're not interested in hearing it. Simple! Problem solved!
People know now, I'm not a nice person anymore. I'm done with that bollocks after where it lead me. (:
I have nothing against you
Thank you for not spitting at us anymore. Hope it stays that way.
I certainly won't do it to you.
My attitude is how I am. It
Thank you.
Glad you're feeling better.
Me too. Love the feeling of
Love it, sure beats Christmas
We usually just piss off the
/pops in My family always
My family always celebrates the same way: we watch Twilight Zone episodes all day and then eat a bunch of finger foods and stay up to watch the ball drop~. Sometimes we all sleep in the same room too, lol.
/pops out
Starling: I'd hate to be your
I'd hate to be your neighbour. XD That's awesome though!
I'm not doing anything this year. Might have a bit to drink though and wait for 12am with dad, likely just talking about stuff
or watching disaster movies. LOL the other day he put 2012 on, made me feel SO much better about next year. X'Docean:
For a moment I thought you guys were gonna watch Twilight, I was greatly relieved when I read Zone on the next line rofl. Sounds lovely though, don't get too fat on the finger foods!
LOL. I would object to
Pfff, I love those finger foods. ;D Delicious fried things, mmm.
Quote:I hope to survive the
:D Good to hear you had a good year, lol. I still have no aims/resolutions for 2012. You got see both Deadmau5 AND Funeral for a Friend? I am jelly. j__j
You have a good new year too
IS THE SONG OBE TRICK PONY
Awkiiies.
THAT WAS ONE OF THEM
AHAHAHAHAHA our lives suck... This is hilarious. XD
Rainbow Dash fluttering
Isn't she! So awesome. If you
Ohgods.... I have Google
ForTwoLifetimes, Moonsoverwater, PandaXiongMao, MissButterflyCaught, FaunGrae, All the same, a friend with many names.
Avatar by Meadow Sig by SightHoundLady
*claws screen in attempt to
Me gusta.
Faun: I dunno what might be
I dunno what might be causing that..? Others seem okay!
Okami:
lmao
.. Rainbow Dash freaks me
Can I have your shades, Vee?
.
Sure! ... That'll be 99
... That'll be 99 dollas. ;D
99 dollas?? You nuts, Vee :'D
.
Dropping in to express how
Wonder: Liek tatally
Liek tatally ;D
Meadow:
I loooove RD! Coolest pony ever! That's awesome though. XD So you got a Rainbow Dash wallpaper now too?
*brofist* Shit's BS broski.
Shit's BS broski.
Well, I guess I will jump at
I was the last one to email, and since the whole issue was about IC/OOC and taking things personally far too severely, whilst misunderstanding, I told her it may be best to leave a grumpy, unwelcoming character like Gehirn alone.
Lex never answered, but her answer was rather clear to me by her running her character in circles around mine continuously, running through the group repeatedly, spellspamming repeatedly. All with different characters, too. Oh and ofcourse untrue updates on character bios, but I can let that slip as I guess it is easy to assume Geh and Vir are together in their actions. But if you have no clue what actually happend, it is a bit rude to call a character a "bastard" for a crime he never committed. But again, I can let that slip.
What bothers me a lot is that Lex had an obvious problem with me/Vee in the beginning of our contact, we spoke about it and well, I suppose Lex stopped speaking about it. At first it was clearly stated, even in Lex's update, that she didn't want anything to do with me/Vee anymore. But now there is the constant stabbing in posts, updates, etc.
If you say you're going to leave people alone because you don't like them, DO SO. Don't go trolling around, I'm not retarded. It's not a huge forest no, but it's not that hard to just let people be. The obvious way in which she keeps coming back is, well sorry, just asking for it.
I've tried to be polite and I've kept private contact in the past. With the public stabbing Lex has been doing, it may just be the best to get this out as well. But still, I am sorry, I do not feel like everyone needs to get involved either. Though on the other hand, I realise there are now a lot of misconceptions about me/Gehirn going around, so perhaps it's not bad to get the story from our side out.
Everyone has a limit.
you are the deer that with
I'm not sure. Gold pelt,
Thats me.
Im awfully sad to hear about
Hope you are okay
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I mostly use my tumblr as a tool coupled with my university studies. An inspiration thread so to speak C:
yay you got tumblr :'D