December 26, 2008 - 11:01pm — Kanaf
sorry but... its been on my mind lately... it seems like every member has this moment at some point but... still...
guys seriously.. do you even care? im just gonna put it out in the open. it seems like since Dannii left, ive been shoved to the back of the picture. i admit, shes probably the one person i talked to the most. she ALWAYS commented on something i wrote, she at least read it. but now that shes gone, i dont have someone to let me know that theyre reading. im guessing a lot of you got to my blogs through her?
it just feels like nobody cares anymore. i wrote an entire chapter to my new story, which even now barely anyone reads, and i havent gotten one comment. was Dannii seriously the only one that even cared? am i THAT boring?
i realize i havent done much lately, what with school. i should expect that when i write something with a number of different peoples characters in it, i should at least get one comment. i should expect that when i write something at all, it should be noticed, because i almost never write anymore. yet here i am, checking how many comments i got every so often, and i keep seeing 0.
is it even worth it? i might as well drop the whole thing if no one cares.
i just feel ignored. i know some of you still pay attention to me, and i love you for that. but there are still a few who i wish would talk to me a little more. i know the world doesnt revolve around me, my friends here have lives, and sometimes they get caught up in them. im not saying lives arent good. but you know, when youre here, you should say something. at least let me know you still count me as a friend.
im trying not to direct this at anyone, and seriously, im not. if you feel like youre being targeted, well, maybe you are, i dont even know myself. im just getting it off my chest.
though i dont expect anyone to read this... i would be amazed if anyone commented.
EDIT: okay okay... ive given myself a little time to clear my thoughts.
im really sorry to everyone i worried. ive talked a few things out with Avani and.. well, i have my thoughts straight >_<
to everyone: im sorry, i made some blatant remarks without considering that it wasnt your fault. some people just plain didnt have time, some people didnt know what to say (which i can completely understand), i know all of you so well, i should know why you didnt comment, but i ended up blinding myself.
im not gonna get too hard on myself. i just want to say that im sorry for worrying you so much. your not terrible friends, youre the best friends i could ask for. you make me laugh, you give me creativity, you make me feel like i have people to turn to when no one else is around me personally. like right now, when all my school friends are miles away.
im sorry, i didnt mean to make you feel awful. youre not. you dont need to feel that way. i hope we can put it behind us really...
D: I read everything of you
I read everything of you but usually I haven't the time to write something... Sorry...
And... YOU'RE NOT BORING!!!
;_; -Huggles Raku- I've been
I've been feeling pushed away too. A lot of people get this feeling.
I know we aren't exactly what you may call friends, but that doesn't mean I don't care about you.
Don't drop your story. I haven't read it yet, but I'm sure it's amazing.
I'm not much of a help but... I really hope you feel better soon. If you need to talk, feel free to come to me.
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Thank you Rowan! <3
I'm really sorry about this.
-hugs- I'm sorry if I don't comment much, I've been pretty busy with school and such. :c
Well. Right now I feel
And besides, it was Christmas.
To pray is to believe, to believe is to purify one's soul
To pray is to believe, to believe is to purify one's soul
............ . . .... You
Well then I suck. Bc I honestly never have time to get on anymore, with school, soccer, deaths in my family and such. D: I always read your stories, I swear to God I do. I miss Dannii as much as you do. >< -gwomps- <3 ugh........ I have no time to comment on this either. D8 Dear, all I'm saying is don't be discouraged! we love you here. :c <#
-shrink- Now I feel
I admit...I haven't been reading the story ;__; I read the first couple chapters and couldn't really get into it, though I had a lot going on at the time. I haven't been reading any stories really >< I guess as a friend I should have been, and I'm sorry. I understand how you feel...not getting any comments on the things you work hard on sucks. I'm also familiar with how losing contact with a friend can make you feel alone or ignored. I wont go into another explanation as to why I don't comment enough >< I'm honestly not sure what to say to put yourself at ease, either. You know if you ever want someone to talk to you can IM or email me. I don't have the nads to do it myself >_< Nor the imagination, really.
-sigh-
I always though, Idk, that
I read your story though :B Parts of it.
This must sound so weird.... eh.... nevermind.............. xc
-jumps out-
aww, Emiva, i understand.
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8U lol I didn't even know
I rarely read TEF stories,
There has been a lot of
Emiva said: "I hate to say
They're called cliques. I have noticed that it's really hard to keep track of people and posts in this community. The forums just plain suck for it and the bugs here are discouraging for pursuing posts/replies. We can however request better ways of tracking so I suggest the community works on a thread together on the main forums for better ideas to do this. More posts, more ideas, more support. Fixes to the forums will make cliques not so bad and help introduce the new/shy people into the community.
I would be willing to start the thread myself but I'm not sure if there's an old one already out there (I'll have to check this weekend) or if anyone wants to start it feel free. I'd be glad to contribute as well, just toss me a message or start the announcement in your blog. If not, I will when I have a bit more time this week.
Kanaf...
You're getting frustrated here, possibly for silly reasons. I'm sure you're already aware many people are busy with holiday stuff. It's really hard to focus on a game and play when you've got Aunt Milda, Uncle Harry with the weird eye, your 5 crazy 2nd cousins, their 7 pets and everyone else running around the house talking here and there and trying to catch up. Even worse if you're stuck at a family member's house who has a computer with a floppy drive!
That said, here's a big question for you...who are you writing for?
If you are writing solely for others' enjoyment then you're doing it wrong. You're expecting comments and frankly it looks bad/needy. Instead, write for yourself and if other people want to be included ask for their support. Otherwise, don't give out freebies. Some people don't understand or won't appreciate the effort that goes into a good story. Don't waste your time with people like that. Give a little, see how they react and give more if you feel it's worth it.
It is also rude to write for people who you suspect will be busy with real life responsibilities because if they are indeed busy (as most are during this time) they do not have the time to post/respond and it appears to everyone else that they are snubbing you when they don't intend it. This gives a cycle of resentment/guilt and is bad to fuel.
Also, please don't write expecting comments. It's a really bad habit and it's good to recognize this and stop now. Write because it makes YOU happy. If it makes others happy too then BONUS!
If you feel you absolutely NEED comments every time then you're not writing for enjoyment but rather for approval. In that case, I'd recommend seeing a counselor or taking a break from the game for a while. The game is meant to be enjoyed and if you're not having fun and getting stressed out over little thing then that is unhealthy!
Be well, Kanaf, and enjoy the rest of the year.^^
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I am a fantasy Illustrator, aspiring polyglot, and a storyteller.
http://Eirien-R.deviantart.com - My DA is usually focused on WoW, custom D&D campaigns, and Planescape.
Well said, Eirien!
...although that was kind of harsh o3o
Wow Eirien -_o That was a
She said she got it settled...I honestly hope she's telling the truth there. I still feel bad, I had no real excuse, but it's not because she pointed it out. I feel bad about this stuff anyways ><
Anyways...I don't think there is any right or wrong way to express yourself...and saying "if you reply on comments every time you should get counseling" is like...whoa XD I think expecting reccognition for your art is perfectly normal and understandable. Sure, I sketch because I like to create art, but the only reason I make anything of real value is for someone else or for reccognition. it's human nature to want to be noticed and appreciated, and to tell someone that's wrong...well, is kinda wrong XD Now I do believe you shouldn't quit writing or art or whatever just because one group of people doesn't appreciate it. There's always someone out there who will, you just have to find them.
Shi said: "Anyways...I
You mis-read AND misquoted me! No wonder you think I'm so harsh! Please re-read my post but with a positive mind-set. (:
I recognize the word 'counselor' is a touchy word in some areas of the world and it seems here a couple responders were already offended by my using it. It's getting up there with sensitivities on discussion of religion and politics. For the record, I don't ever intend to be rude but rather try to give a different opinion on things. And sometimes a bit of a shock can help us see where we're at. The word counselor could easily be replaced with any other support group/family/etc. Just make sure to talk it out with someone irl.
I'm sure or at least hope Raku recognizes my post wasn't intended as being rude but rather trying to encourage her in a sort of big-sister way to create for others but do so with the purpose of joy rather than with frustration.
Cheers.
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I am a fantasy Illustrator, aspiring polyglot, and a storyteller.
http://Eirien-R.deviantart.com - My DA is usually focused on WoW, custom D&D campaigns, and Planescape.
Well....erm...I'm glad you
I have nothing against counselors, I've seen several myself, and aspire to be one. However I don't think one blog excerpt from someone feeling bad about not getting reccognition gives anybody the right to tell them they need help.
I still disagree with you, and it has nothing to do with reading it with a "negative mind-set"...thank you.
Shi: "Well....erm...I'm glad
Hmm, okay we got off on the wrong start. I won't excuse myself for not knowing the op's full posting history as I'm somewhat new here, still trying to navigate these forums, and for the record I did see her edit but after the initial post. My bad for being slow. I'm glad she's working things out, however.
You're free to disagree with my initial thoughts on the matter. Thankfully, so is the op.^^
Good night, Shi. (:
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I am a fantasy Illustrator, aspiring polyglot, and a storyteller.
http://Eirien-R.deviantart.com - My DA is usually focused on WoW, custom D&D campaigns, and Planescape.
o3o I hate constructive
I hate constructive arguments XD
/awkward
okay bai x3
BUT I LOVE YOU RAKU DON'T
DON'T THINK NO ONE CARES OR DOESN'T READ YOUR STUFF! WE DO! We've all just been less quiet since Dannii left...
She has a big effect on us all yes?
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