Dear TEF Community...

May 7, 2014 - 6:26pm — Pelicann

I wanted to share just how much this site means to me. I've only been here a few weeks, but already I've made friends and felt accepted. All this came to my mind today, because of what my "friends" did to me.

Sometimes I will browse the site in school during studies on my ipad. Reply to rps, check out some art, yknow. People had looked over my shoulder before and commented about how creepy the characters looked, but I brush it off. That's how I felt at first, too. But today, while I was emailing someone some references for a commission, my 'friend' saw and laughed in my face about it, bringing almost everyone's attention to it.

I guess he managed to take a screenshot and snapchat it to everyone on his friends list, with a mean caption I'd rather not say. It was supposed to be a joke. Very funny. Then my "BEST FRIEND" from school looked on my Facebook where I had posted some art I had received. Most of my friends on fb are from online, or camp, or just more open-minded, accepting people. I didn't think the people at my school gave a shit about what I post. But this friend made fun of it, and made fun of how I go on the site. Saying I shouldn't waste time on a site about creepy deer...

Well, they went so far as to bring up old photos from years and years ago, which were extremely embarrassing. I ended up just deleting my account.

This sort of thing just reminds me of how awesome all of you are. You can't judge things by how they look, and art is art. There are weirder things than deer with human faces. For some people, there's an emotional significance to certain characters, or maybe when you went through a tough time, the people from TEFc were the ones to support you. I love everyone here and how accepting you are...I really appreciate it. I'm glad there are people like you.

(Sorry for any typos. I'm really upset, so not really paying attention to spelling)

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May 7, 2014 - 6:35pm — Staff

Beautifully said, Peli. I

Beautifully said, Peli. I know I'll always be here for you and for this community. TEF is something not everyone can see, but for those who can, it's a wonderful thing.

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May 7, 2014 - 7:04pm — Fainalotea

That is absolutely terrible

That is absolutely terrible what they did to you.

I know how it feels for "friends" to turn on you, and for people to judge things based on how they looks. It seems to happen a lot everywhere, even here on TEFc at times, but there are also many good-spirited people as well who are always there to support you, and it makes me filled with joy to see you happy at least about the people on TEFc.

I know that when things like this happen to me, I feel as if everything is dark and could turn on you.

And I am honored to be someone that you call a friend, and I hope that I can bring you enough joy.

Shame on those people who made fun of you like that. They deserve a nice spankin'

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May 7, 2014 - 7:15pm — littlesinner

Everyone I tell about TEF

Everyone I tell about TEF think it's creepy and human faced-deer are the spawn of the devil. Can't even go on the community site in the Computer room without having my friends crowd around and jeer at everything on the screen. :/

What they did was awful. I hope to God you dumped that 'Friend' of yours and told her to get a life.

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May 7, 2014 - 7:28pm — Pelicann

She is usually fine I guess.

She is usually fine I guess. The one thing I hate this how judgmental she is. That's my biggest pet peeve. What I like about myself is that I never judge someone at first glance. To me, everyone is just a human being, all the same, until I get to really know them. No matter what sites you go on, what you wear, or who you hang out with, you're a person, too. Nobody is better than anyone else.

But yeah. She's a right-wing, gun-toting republican. I have nothing against republicans, so don't interpret this as me lumping them all together. But what I mean is that she's just...kind of violent. She believes that Obama is a terrorist and should be killed, and crazy shit like that. She's funny, and usually nice to me, but REALLY judgmental. And she doesn't even attempt to hide it.

May 7, 2014 - 7:31pm — DinahMoon

Almost everybody I know that

Almost everybody I know that I've told about TEF gives me the same "I don't get it" response. Or think it's "weird" ... you're not alone there. The game doesn't appeal to everybody (unimaginative/boring people.) Hugs to you.

May 7, 2014 - 7:35pm — littlesinner

After reading what you wrote

After reading what you wrote about her I can't say she seems like a very nice person... yet still I don't actually know her, so I may be wrong. That whole "being gay in public is wrong" thing really ticks me off, especially because... well. :'c

You should have the friends that treat you right. What she did to you seems horrible- tell her how you feel and if she doesn't sincerely apologize... hmm.

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May 7, 2014 - 7:49pm — Fainalotea

I agree with little. You

I agree with little.
You deserve to have friends that treat you right and make you feel GOOD about yourself.
Being around people who make you uncomfortable or insecure are not people you should be around.
I guess that is why I have no human friends in rl though...I do not easily trust people outside of my family due to having friends turn on me a lot like this.
My only real friends are my kitten and my dog as well as my mom and siblings (whom also drive me nuts) but I cannot complain.
Having just them is way better than being surrounded by people who may just end up turning on you in the future.
But anyways enough about me.
You deserve much better than what you are getting.

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May 7, 2014 - 8:17pm — Foodog

Oh wow... Definitely not

Oh wow...

Definitely not cool.

People like that aren't friends. You gotta stay with the positive people and forget the negative ones. Drop them like a rock is what I usually say because then it works. Maybe it'll wake some of them up and make them realize how disrespectful and ignorant they had been to you. And even if it doesn't work for them, it works for you because then you don't have to deal with their opinions on things. You can toss whatever they say in the trash where it belongs. Less stress, you know?

The fact that they made you feel bad about something you like is just...
What a bunch of little shits, really.

May 7, 2014 - 9:07pm — night654

I've always found myself

I've always found myself being conscious when I'm on the site in class, as well other public places making sure other students can't see my screen. I've done this for a long time and will continue to do so, because I too, am afraid of being laughed at. I'm starting to outgrow this somewhat because I find that I don't really care anymore. So what if they find out, I learn to ignore. I've told a few of my friends outside of the community, of course a common reaction I received. However, that didn't bother me - they know me well and understand I'm not always on the same thing everyone else is. I'm amazed you posted this, and I think people just overreact. TEFc is one of those things that one has to get used to, get to know. I think also another reason is, if something is really different and unusual people tend to fear, question, and laugh at to hide their true feelings about it until they open up to it. Instead of facebook, instagram, all those other social sites, I consider TEFc my home. It's better than all those combined.. in my opinion.

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May 7, 2014 - 10:52pm — Pelicann

Thanks...all of you. I love

Thanks...all of you. I love that you all understand and have had similar experiences. I mean, I'm not glad that you had to experience it, but at least I know I'm not alone. The only problem is, these people are my only friends. I'm not exaggerating either. My freshman year of high school was a nightmare. I went through some pretty damn rough stuff, and had zero friends the entire year. I would usually sit alone, listening to music or watching videos or something. Trying to distract myself from the real issue. Sophomore year, it got better, though. I made friends with this same group that made fun of me.

Now they are my only friends...there's more, but they are part of that group and we all sit at the same table. If I dumped some of them, and not others, I'd probably have to move tables to prevent it from getting awkward to the people who didn't hurt me. A couple stood up on my side, and I appreciated that. It just sucks that my best friend out of that group was the worst to me.

I'll probably learn to be more like you, Night. I'll learn to stop caring. I might just brush this off and try to pretend it didn't happen. Maybe talk to her, let her know that what she did was a dick move, but I'm willing to forgive her if she opens up to new ideas. I'll let you guys know how that goes over...

May 7, 2014 - 10:54pm — idiosyncrasies

Pelicann, I am so sorry to

Pelicann, I am so sorry to here about this. Being publicly humiliated is one of the worst things that people do to others. Glad you have people on TEF to turn to, though.

I have to echo other people here; these people don't sound like they are being any kind of 'friend' to you. Speaking from having toxic friendships for all four years of highschool, I really would recommend you cut ties with people who are cruel to you on purpose, don't accept you for you, or just make you feel uncomfortable. It might be hard now to cut ties with people who you've spent a lot of time with, but you'll feel better in the long run, I think.

Whatever you choose to do, I'm sure you'll have a lot of support from people on here.<3

May 7, 2014 - 11:07pm — LunarPriestess

I can understand your

I can understand your feelings.
This action from "friend" really bad action.
This bad, when other people so critical relate to others interesting or others worldview.
It's wrong, because people should to try understand others.
If someone not like the others, people begin to laugh on him. I think, that it is bad manners.
If you don't understand, please, don't say to everyone about this, better show your decency. I think so and I would say it to others, which don't understand other good people.

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May 7, 2014 - 11:20pm — Pelicann

Thank you, Idio and Lunar.

Thank you, Idio and Lunar. All this support really means a lot to me. You guys truly are the best <3

May 7, 2014 - 11:24pm — LunarPriestess

You are welcome. I know and I

You are welcome. I know and I was in little like this situation.

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May 7, 2014 - 11:25pm — Staff

I do hope your situation gets

I do hope your situation gets better. Stuff like that in school hours is nightmarish. My advice would to be to hide your screen the best you can if you want to visit sites that you enjoy. I got on TEF on my phone once in study hall and tried keeping it to myself, it worked then.

Just know that you always have friends to turn to here when the ones you see don't live up to the meaning of the word.

♥

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May 8, 2014 - 1:34am — night654

Then again, I must mention -

Then again, I must mention - ignoring others and their comments whatever it may be is something that is done easily for myself. I've had times where I'm walking down the hallway and some junior will call me some pretty mean things.. I just walk on like it never happened. I have friends, a pretty close circle of them, but I find myself floating a lot more often these days. I try to confront some new people once in a while if I get the chance. So don't worry, not everyone will be like this - even at this age. At least try to be open-minded, you never know.

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May 8, 2014 - 1:56am — hadoukin

same thing here man, my best

same thing here man, my best friend thinks it's odd but doesn't say more, but we're in to different things and she wasn't rude about it. Now my other friends who are more artsy think its great, like whoa you're arts great thats cool.
now steady yourself for this i got my boyfriend to actually make an account and he plays around in forest with me all the time, he thinks it's hella cool. he's an artist type too.
now, i think that artistic and creative people are attracted to it, and people who aren't into are just not open minded enough, or creative enough to really understand what it is.
but usually i dont tell ANYONE about this, because even i think it's embarrassing, everyone else is going to clubs and i'm like ayyyyye im on a deer website.
aaand in reality, deer with human faces are pretty creepy, like image how it would really look. whoa.

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May 8, 2014 - 3:06am — Pelicann

Hahahaha yeeahh. If I saw

Hahahaha yeeahh. If I saw Cian or any of my favorite characters from here show up I would probably crap my pants

May 8, 2014 - 4:03am — Fainalotea

This is what went through my

This is what went through my head when I read your comment about meeting Cian XD

Cian: *walks up to you, spotting you from the woods* "...Mother?"

You:

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May 8, 2014 - 3:26am — LambFleece

Aw, Pelicann. I know just how

Aw, Pelicann. I know just how you feel. I couldn't say all the rude comments I've gotten, just from trying to participate in such a loving, caring community full of creativity and uniqueness, not creepiness, and from playing such a beautiful and relaxing game.

Sorry to here about FB. That's why TEFc is the only public forum I take part in. Wishing you'll be able to cheer up soon c: I don't have much to say except I hope you'll feel better, and stick around with us. ♥

BTW, I'll get to your email soon. I've been uber busy with school, so I hadn't had time to reply properly, sorry!

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May 8, 2014 - 3:55am — Pelicann

THAT MONKEY'S FACE So

THAT MONKEY'S FACE
So accurate

@Fleece: Some people just aren't creative enough to see the beauty in some things. I'm already feeling much better, and am much more confident after all these supportive messages. I think now I'll be able to keep my head up and learn to not care what others think. If what I'm doing isn't hurting them, then why should anyone complain? I'll brush them off and continue doing what I enjoy, cause I deserve to. No one is going to make me feel like I need to hide myself anymore.

Thank you<33 and take your time with the email. School comes first

May 8, 2014 - 4:05am — Fainalotea