In memory of...

DeerUniverse's picture
Last week, a user that you may have known died. His name was Kyle Magellan, but you probably knew him as NotAvailable. In my neighborhood, the houses are at least a mile apart from each other in the backwoods, and shortly after this user described where he lived, I realized what a small world it is. I barely got to know who he was before he went, but he left behind his dog Union, and a note. The note he left had a drawing of the ugliest creature I had ever seen, and under it read, "When you see it, run."
He took his life on the night of the full moon.
To those of you who were wondering what Kyle really looked like, yes. He did have stitches and scars; all over his face. Kyle did not have any hair at all; probably a form of alopecia. His eyes were so brown that they seemed to be black, and he was one of the nicest people I ever had the pleasure to meet, if only for a short time. I could sense that he was troubled by something deeper, as if he was trying to run away from something that he could not.
I found his body that night, and realized that what could have been haunting him drove him to kill himself. But I hope that he is in a better place now. One that would not treat him so horribly; as I remember him describing that he was bullied and beaten by various people, including his own father, who passed away before he did. Even though Kyle didn't have enough food to feed himself with, he was smart and resourceful. I often saw him coming back from the woods with dead animals and plants slung over his back; and reading his comments about the abandoned food mart he picked over.
A few days before his death, I heard that he finally received a job in town.
But I think I will remember him most by his character, Stitches. Stitches resembled himself; scared, stitched up, lonely, beaten, sad, and misunderstood. But he was loving, and wanted anybody for a friend. If I can remember correctly, he said that he was close to ending his life before he found TEFc.
The people who commented on his blogs, drew him pictures, and played with him in the forest must have made him really happy, and he seemed very grateful for them.



Afterglow

I'd like the memory of me to be a happy one.
I'd like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done.
I'd like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days.
I'd like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun;
Of happy memories that I leave when life is done.

-Unknown
Sluggs's picture

Well, if I wrote a blog about

Well, if I wrote a blog about someone's death and people didn't believe what I wrote, I would leave that to them, not worry about it, and move on, (carry on regardless)

That's just me though. Smiling
Aivilo's picture

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Don't you know 'Elzire', too?

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Don't you know 'Elzire', too? How's she been doing, by the way?
It's a small world indeed, the neighborhood you've made up.

When 'Elzire' was caught on character theft, you stood up for her, that was also the time you revealed yourself to be her neighbor.
Like that would give her case any leverage. She wasn't known for being truthful either, though she did claim to be, plenty of times.

'Stitches' could pass as any other kid screaming for attention and making shit up on the go.
His speech pattern was the same as yours and 'Elzire's, yet that wasn't enough to raise suspicion, let alone count as an evidence.
But you just had to tie this back on to yourself, the whole story. Thanks to your halfwit vanity and your need to mooch off people's emotions.
There's nothing to discuss, there are no facts but this one: it all reads like a fucked up fairytale with a corny ending. That's how you designed it and you strung folks along.

Use your little time here wisely and apologize to the people you've hurt. You're not even scum.
onyxsoulclaw's picture

People please. Ok everyone

People please.

Ok everyone know te story of the boy who called wolf. If not read it. and think of the last part.

If this player is depressed then peoples comments here could cause a reaction in a bad way.
None of us know if this player is stating if another died (rest in peace if so) or this is how they see themselves or plan things.

None of us has a right to pass judgement here.

Those who can contact this player please can you offer support and reassurance and make sure they are ok. If this is a child please see if theirs and adult who can assist.

You know if this is a lie I DONT CARE it's not the end of the world but negative reactions to it could cause the end of the world to someone.

I've seen death and it leaves a scar on the mind no matter how deep you bury it. faces come back and thoughts go round." what if i'd, if only id, whey did i not" this leads to a bad state of mind .

If TEFc is a way out a happy place Lets keep it a happy place and support all those members no matter where, who, or what they are going through.
WE ARE A COMMUNITY SO LETS START HELPING/SUPPORTING/UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER!
Mahj's picture

Onyx. Have you ever been

Onyx. Have you ever been closely involved with someone who has committed suicide?
Have you ever attempted suicide yourself?

Because yes. If this is a lie. It does in fact matter, it matters a lot. You do not lie about suicide and then get to brush it off without a good verbal tearing into at least.
You've seen a lot of death? Well guess what, I've seen plenty of death myself too. And I for one, don't think that people who play with it get to be coddled.

Look around you. TEF is not a happy place. It's full of backstabbing and whining and anyone who says otherwise is blind or ignorant. I'm happy to toss love and sunshine and rainbows and help and support at anyone who deserves it. But I refuse to play sweet to anyone who so clearly suffers from nothing more severe than Munchausen by internet.

This post has been deconstructed so hard a five star chef would call it overkill. If the lack of obituary alone isn't enough for you, just sit down and think. using your brain, using logic instead of emotions, of how many holes there are here. Logic, not emotion, because right now, it seems to me that the people taking this bait are thinking too much with their feels and not enough with their heads.

I believe she has a problem. I do think she needs love and support. I do not think feeding her cuddles and lies is support. I think she needs professional help for whatever issue she has.

AlisonRobin's picture

You make sense Onyx, but

You make sense Onyx, but DeerUniverse isn't the only person potentially hurting here. I will agree that there is no excuse to bully a child, but if there are feelings I think it is just to state them plainly. I kept my last post focused just on my own feelings specifically for that reason.

NotAvailable was around for some time, and most of us are now of the opinion, based on inconsistencies, that he was a sock puppet. Like I said before I didn't pay too much attention to him because my general impression was that he was a kid with a lot of problems and it would be impossible for me to pick through and identify truth from hyperbole. But I figured he was still a kid, he hadn't hurt anyone, he was probably making stuff up or exaggerating because he needed attention. A lot of kids are like that. So I sent general well-wishings his way. I checked in on him. I played with him in The Forest.

Now, my time, thoughts, and feelings were wasted because that person never existed. That relationship that I believed I had never existed, and what relationship that did exist was built on lies.

I am sad, frustrated, angry, and I have been used.

I have the capacity for understanding and I have the capacity to listen and hear, but I am not willing to forgive until I receive an apology for what has happened and until everyone else in my position or a position similar to mine has also received their apologies. I am not willing to extend my help and time where there is no remorse, because mistakes cannot be fixed if they are not openly acknowledged.
onyxsoulclaw's picture

Yes to the question. I've

Yes to the question.
I've worked with a chap who wanted to go give it all up, i spent time talking with him when other would not. I was an ear for him to vent at. The depression and things he said were describable He was committed in the end to a hospital for his own protection and got help. it took a few years but he did pull through. (he was a lucky one)

sometimes people call for help through other means role play and stories, comics and such are some ways. I also had someone i cared for try to open their wrists. Every persons mental state is different and everyone has a limit. it's often the thing you least expect to send them over.

Hence i dont care if its all a lie it's words yes they can hurt and offend, if the minds in a bad place it is not often expressed clearly.

Hence no matter what my concerns is for this player. I wish i lived there, i would be round there with an ear and offer of a coffee.

One of the hardest emotions a human can give is forgiveness.
Mahj's picture

I'm glad your friend was

I'm glad your friend was committed, some of us aren't so lucky. Now, would your friend approve of suicide being thrown around like some sort of weapon to be wielded in the name of demanding attention? Because from where I'm standing, it seems everyone else who's struggled with this is pissed.

Forgiveness is not an emotion. It is an action, and a privilege.
One that has not been earned, in this case.
You can feel something from forgiveness, pleasure, relief...

This is not harmless roleplay and storytelling. they made up an entire human being with an entire life, made friends under the guise of this being existing, and then tried to say that this person killed themselves that's emotional abuse at best

At this point, giving them pity is casting pearls before swine. If they're doing this, in some way they do need it--which isn't right, you shouldn't need to make up a story to get attention and pity. And that does mean that they need help.

But this isn't what they need, they don't need to be believed, they need to be disbelieved.

If a child walks up to you, and says 'This just happened!' and you find out it's a lie...
You're nice to them, but you don't believe them. Yes, we should help them. But we need the truth first, they need the truth first. More than anyone. Believing them, giving them pity and forgiveness before they even apologize? What does that teach them? That this is okay?

They need to seek help. TEF is not their therapist. Hurt though they may be, they've hurt other people in their wake. And you seem to be implying that their emotions don't matter, or don't matter as much.

There are people, who thought NA was a real person, who made 'friends' with them. With this being they assumed existed, and all of a sudden, they find out they've been lied to. Personally, I can't even imagine that feeling. Knowing you've been lied to so utterly and completely and I wouldn't blame anyone who thought NA a real person and a friend if they never forgave DU, because they don't owe them anything.

All in all:

Forgiveness is not an emotion.
DU isn't owed forgiveness. They do owe an apology.
Everyone else here has emotions too, and they don't deserve to be fucked with.
Vala 's picture

I do not want to interfere

I do not want to interfere here, but there has been long time ago , one who called "Stitches", which disappeared in a strange way ... there was also something strange about that person...Can not remember what...When I saw that name here I thought the old one was back...it could not be , I think he died...Maybe someone from the old players remember...
" ~ Lady in Red ~ "

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Sluggs's picture

Well, I don't remember Vala,

Well, I don't remember Vala, but I'm just an old fart who keeps forgetting what he did the previous day! Laughing out loud
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The Striped Stag (retrack

The Striped Stag (retrack maybes?)
... From Ashrudu From Nojpe From Stitches From Sunflyra From KitisuneSakura From Doe ...

Blog entry - LexFirehind - 2011-10-14 04:16 - 29 comments


I found this ...
" ~ Lady in Red ~ "

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Flyleaf's picture

Vala , Stitches was played by

Vala , Stitches was played by Notavaible .
He was a friend of Arcus , Jennie and myself .
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LostintheEcho's picture

Oh man looking at my previous

Oh man looking at my previous posts, how many times did I say the word 'also', gold star for me. There were still a few things I was going to point out, such as how this started turning into an attempted pity party for DU. I mean after looking at the emails and such, there was still no evidence about what happened, only that DU is suffering for what happened and, this blog wasn't meant to be about that. All I want now is some closure. If I were in DU's situation and this whole thing was real, I'd have sent shit loads of photos of the dog and even the kids house cus hey its not like anyone lives there anymore. But unfortunately everyone's agreeing that this is fake, myself included. If DU continues to hide from this, it will only make things worse imo. Whether she was projecting her problems into a fictional person or not, a suicide story is not okay. As most have already pointed out, it effects people a lot more than DU probably thought it would. However, to be in a situation where you feel so helpless because a friend keeps harming themselves even after you try to stop them, to listen and try to be there for someone who wants to die, I really hate that DU has tried to act like she's in that situation. There is nothing worse than seeing someone self harm and wish for death, that helpless feeling is suffocating. Sorry for going off on one at the end but ughh i needed to vent.
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Onyx, I know you're trying to

Onyx, I know you're trying to be gentle, but that is not necessary or helpful here at all. In fact, it really is harmful to DU to be gentle with them. It only feeds the negative issue at hand.

Allowing someone to throw a tantrum and lie to get attention is not okay. You would not let a child get his or her way by giving them what they want if they faked a broken leg. You would be very angry if someone faked being homeless to get money, wouldn't you? In the US, faking someone's death to get their life insurance money is illegal and punishable by prison time. You wouldn't be trying to help them do it, would you? I hope not, because none of these things are okay.

Someone faking someone else's suicide to get attention is not okay on those levels mentioned above and more. It is disgusting that someone could use a very real problem to gain attention. It is disrespectful to those who really have endured the struggle and lost. It is disrespectful to the families and friends who have had to endure the loss of their loved ones to a very difficult struggle. Lying about suicide to get attention is like lying about a family member's death to get their life insurance money so you can go to a casino with it.

Have you ever heard of using tough love to help someone? Just think of this as that. DU should, if they are a person of sound mind, learn from this and help themselves in the future.
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Well, I don't understand some

Well, I don't understand some things, but.......
This man was my good internet friend, I communicated with him a long time and I know many facts.
He said that he hasn't neighbors. (His quote from email: "I don't have any friends because I was an outcast at my school. no neighbors lived within at least a 5 mile radius of our house, and I was an only child")
And his last message for me:
"I apologize. its been very tough and increasingly difficult for me to keep it together since my father died. I go in and out of depression, and, most often consciousness. I don't eat anymore. I don't know why, but I figured that since I don't have that much food anyway that its pointless to eat it because I may never find food or the money to find food again. I've had many thoughts. why keep living? you're not worth anything. even though the kind people on the endless forest website had helped me sort out some of my feelings, most of them are still there. sometimes I am afraid to die. other times I just want to end it. I don't know why I am still here. maybe its because I have met hope, in various forms. you have been one of them."
I wanted to help him. I thought that I could send canned goods or money, but he said me that he couldn't receive parcels. Someone can give me understand, why so?
After this post, I think that this sounds strange.
Also social worker looked after him, at least came to him. But strange, because this social worker dissapeared.
Vala 's picture

Fly , the Stitches I'm

Fly , the Stitches I'm talking about was here in 2011...I'm sorry Sad
" ~ Lady in Red ~ "

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Flyleaf's picture

Ah , Vala . But this one was

Ah , Vala .
But this one was a new player .
His Forum name was "Notavaible"
And his deer was named Stitches .
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This was a user of this

This was a user of this website? How does only DeerUniverse know of his death?
I know I shouldn't be poking around in other peoples' blogs, but this sounds serious.
Where is this boy now?

Dronomer, please read through

Dronomer, please read through the comments on the blog. There was quite a lot of debate in the comments that might shed some light on why this issue is complicated.